Why would a grown woman do this?

[RooBee17]

I have been attending a local slimming group for almost 2 years now. On the same day i started another new member joined and we became good friends. We socialisd outside of group and took our kids out for days out.
7 months after starting slimming I gained a little confidence in myself and started dating a man I am still with now.
My friend met him once and she seemed really happy for me.
In the past few months my friend gave up slimming so doesn't go anymore so I go it alone.
Recently my boyfriend attended a group with me on his day off work. I have made good friends there and I talk about slimming a lot so he came to check it out.
I returned the following week on my own and the ladies were shocked.
"Your boyfriend isn't what we expected "
I found out from them that on a week I wasn't present my friend showed them a pic of my boyfriend. Except it wasn't him.
It seems she had googled someone with extreme facial tattoos and piercings and claimed it was him!
I messaged her when I got home. It wasn't confrontational. I just said the ladies were a bit surprised when my boyfriend showed up as he wasn't anything like they had been shown and I then mentioned the photo she had showed them.
I don't know what I expected her to say but she just played dumb and said she had no idea what I was talking about.
I can't work it out, but I am done with this friendship now. I really can't be bothered with such childish behaviour.
Just had to get this off my chest!

Of course it's not the main point of the thread.

It's what caused her to realise her ex friend was being weird, but the thread is about her ex friend being weird. Not how she came to realise it.

Spoke too soon!!!

@Coffeekat @OfftoH

you two are both being very rude & I'm going to leave you to your childish behavior

Why? I thought men could use Slimming World too. It's not a woman only space is it?

Lots of people at Slimmingworld are ‘target’ so not overweight they go to maintain and it’s a social thing (I’m in that category)
Everyone weighs in private. No one shares what they weigh. There’s no going around circle anymore saying how you’ve done. There’s always a few men there.

Who said anything about it being a gender issue

I have been trying to work out why your 'friend' would do that. Has she just got a strange sense of humour or maybe she has 'moments' of madness !

Why is that so weird some men do join slimming groups and why shouldn’t they. It’s great to have a supportive partner and maybe he too has a weight issue.

But he didn’t join the group. The poster wasn’t saying men could not go, sounds to me like she dragged him along so they could all see she’d got a boyfriend,

It's not a single sex group, it's a single issue group.
It's a place everyone knows that everyone there has a weight problem. People can be open because everyone there has the same problem.
Bringing someone who isn't looking to join the group for the same reason, to have a nosey, is inappropriate.
It's really inconsiderate towards people who pay to attend a group for support from people going through the same thing. Almost nobody will admit this when put on the spot because it's embarrassing.

Why are you telling me this I only said why shouldn’t men join slimming clubs if they have a weight problem .Im not talking about weirdos .Op did explain why he was there.Even so , It was a general comment as some people seems to think it’s odd for a guy to join a slimming club.

I was not referring to the Op boyfriend I know he didn’t join up ,it was just a general statement.😁

Because this man at this group was weird - he was there for a nosey or to be exhibited, not to join the group.You were replying to someone saying that it was weird her boyfriend tagged along, not to any suggestion that men shouldn't join the group as members because they want to lose weight.

Public forum! Everything you post is open for discussion! That's my view and if/when I start a thread, I'll welcome all observations ☺️

Ah it all makes sense now - thanks 👍🏻

Always happens on here.

It happens because it'd be the elephant in the room otherwise.

I was just wandering through Tesco in my new bikini when some kid ran a trolley into me, and now I have a trolley shaped bruise. Why do people let their kids push the trolley?

Erm - blanket ban on addressing anything but the ostensible question? Is that really what the thread is about?

Yes, I know - but taking your boyfriend into to slimming club and having him stay so he can have a nosey the other members and/ or to prove to the other members that he isn't imaginary is just as weird as finding it funny to say that your frenemy's new boyfriend has loads of tattoos when he doesn't.

Those posts where everyone seizes on something completely irrelevant to the original post are also boring as fuck to read. I want to know what PP make of this weird woman’s behaviour. I don’t want to read fifty posts making the same utterly irrelevant point.

I bet this woman is ON FIRE with jealousy of you, OP. She has to be, to do that. Back away ve-ry slowly. I can’t believe that she tried to make out that your boyfriend is a total skank. She obviously never dreamed that the women would ever meet him. She must have been shitting herself! I wouldn’t be friends with her anymore, but I wouldn’t be letting her off without a flea in her ear, either. “Dear FuckFace, I can’t believe you did that. You ACTUALLY downloaded a picture of a total skank and tried to make out that he was my boyfriend. You were clearly on fire with jealousy, because why else would you do such a spiteful, immature thing? I know you’re single, but there was no need to be such a bitch. Hope I never run into you again - and I hope you feel clever, letting your rampant jealousy destroy a friendship. I suggest you seek help for your character issues.”

Dear God. NO ONE FUCKING CARES!!!

I often wonder why people don't talk through these moral quandaries face-to-face. What if your group made it up and falsely identified a stranger as a joke? That could feel disingenuous to your good friend.

Didn’t the others realise it was a picture downloaded from the internet, especially since you all know it?