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Why would a grown woman do this?

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RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 16:53

I have been attending a local slimming group for almost 2 years now. On the same day i started another new member joined and we became good friends. We socialisd outside of group and took our kids out for days out.
7 months after starting slimming I gained a little confidence in myself and started dating a man I am still with now.
My friend met him once and she seemed really happy for me.
In the past few months my friend gave up slimming so doesn't go anymore so I go it alone.
Recently my boyfriend attended a group with me on his day off work. I have made good friends there and I talk about slimming a lot so he came to check it out.
I returned the following week on my own and the ladies were shocked.
"Your boyfriend isn't what we expected "
I found out from them that on a week I wasn't present my friend showed them a pic of my boyfriend. Except it wasn't him.
It seems she had googled someone with extreme facial tattoos and piercings and claimed it was him!
I messaged her when I got home. It wasn't confrontational. I just said the ladies were a bit surprised when my boyfriend showed up as he wasn't anything like they had been shown and I then mentioned the photo she had showed them.
I don't know what I expected her to say but she just played dumb and said she had no idea what I was talking about.
I can't work it out, but I am done with this friendship now. I really can't be bothered with such childish behaviour.
Just had to get this off my chest!

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Matingincaptivity · 29/10/2026 16:56

That is weird as hell 🤣

Douglasmummy · 29/10/2026 16:59

Wow you've dodged a psycho bullet there! Luckily you found out before she started breaking into your house and moving your cushions round!

OMGDidYouSayThat · 29/10/2026 17:01

Your friend sounds like a weirdo to be honest...

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:02

Douglasmummy · 29/10/2026 16:59

Wow you've dodged a psycho bullet there! Luckily you found out before she started breaking into your house and moving your cushions round!

You're right! It's so bizarre!
She obviously thought that my bf would never meet these ladies so she thought she could get away with it.
Life can be weird enough, I don't need people adding extra to it!

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PressedThistle · 29/10/2026 17:02

Matingincaptivity · 29/10/2026 16:56

That is weird as hell 🤣

Not as weird as your boyfriend tagging along to a slimming group!

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:03

OMGDidYouSayThat · 29/10/2026 17:01

Your friend sounds like a weirdo to be honest...

Absolutely. Which is why we're not friends anymore.

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RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:05

PressedThistle · 29/10/2026 17:02

Not as weird as your boyfriend tagging along to a slimming group!

There's always one 🤣
We were going into town after and it was better than him just sitting outside waiting in the car, so he came in for a coffee and a chat. Not massively weird imo

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FannybygaslightinGovan · 29/10/2026 17:05

PressedThistle · 29/10/2026 17:02

Not as weird as your boyfriend tagging along to a slimming group!

Why is that weird? Are men not allowed?

Matingincaptivity · 29/10/2026 17:09

FannybygaslightinGovan · 29/10/2026 17:05

Why is that weird? Are men not allowed?

Its a bit insensitive to the other participants IMO

moderate · 29/10/2026 17:11

The only mitigating circumstance I can think of is if the person with extreme facial piercings has the same name as your boyfriend and comes up when you google your his name -- which if she did in front of someone at the slimming group might have caused a misunderstanding.

Otherwise, it's very odd behaviour.

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:18

Matingincaptivity · 29/10/2026 17:09

Its a bit insensitive to the other participants IMO

Many of the other members occasionally bring husbands. There's nothing insensitive about it

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Lifesyoungdream · 29/10/2026 17:26

PressedThistle · 29/10/2026 17:02

Not as weird as your boyfriend tagging along to a slimming group!

I thought the same can’t believe women take husband and boyfriends along with them to a slimming group if they are not members

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:32

Lifesyoungdream · 29/10/2026 17:26

I thought the same can’t believe women take husband and boyfriends along with them to a slimming group if they are not members

I can understand but husbands/partners attending the group wasn't why I posted tbh

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ginasevern · 29/10/2026 17:40

Very, very weird. It's something that a young teenager might do as a joke with a group of close friends. Not a grown woman with kids! I assume you've never noticed anything "off" about her before? I'd avoid her like the plague. Good job she's dropped the slimming class.

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:43

ginasevern · 29/10/2026 17:40

Very, very weird. It's something that a young teenager might do as a joke with a group of close friends. Not a grown woman with kids! I assume you've never noticed anything "off" about her before? I'd avoid her like the plague. Good job she's dropped the slimming class.

No, nothing odd at all really. We had grown quite close so I'm not sure what her intentions were. She has only shown herself up.

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ginasevern · 29/10/2026 17:48

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:43

No, nothing odd at all really. We had grown quite close so I'm not sure what her intentions were. She has only shown herself up.

Then it really makes it even odder. Do you think she googled your boyfriend's name and this picture came up, and she genuinely thought it was him. Or it was intended to be some kind of joke but she got herself into hole. I know I'm probably talking rubbish though.

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:50

ginasevern · 29/10/2026 17:48

Then it really makes it even odder. Do you think she googled your boyfriend's name and this picture came up, and she genuinely thought it was him. Or it was intended to be some kind of joke but she got herself into hole. I know I'm probably talking rubbish though.

She had met him and knew what he looked like. He has no piercings or tattoos what so ever. I wonder if she was trying to show me up or something.
I never saw the Google pic but it must have been extreme as a few of the ladies said they were quite concerned for me lol

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ginasevern · 29/10/2026 17:54

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:50

She had met him and knew what he looked like. He has no piercings or tattoos what so ever. I wonder if she was trying to show me up or something.
I never saw the Google pic but it must have been extreme as a few of the ladies said they were quite concerned for me lol

Then it was pure spite. She's obviously jealous. Either of you personally or because you're happily with a boyfriend - or both. She sounds like a nasty piece of work.

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 17:55

ginasevern · 29/10/2026 17:54

Then it was pure spite. She's obviously jealous. Either of you personally or because you're happily with a boyfriend - or both. She sounds like a nasty piece of work.

It's sad but you're probably right.
Thank you for taking the time to help me get my head around this! I appreciate it x

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SpainToday · 29/10/2026 17:58

I agree it was definitely out of spite. Is she single by any chance?

watchingthishtread · 29/10/2026 17:59

If you search Google Images for his name what comes up?

Happyjoe · 29/10/2026 18:04

Lol, nowt as queer as folk as they say! What a strange strange woman!

AgentPidge · 29/10/2026 18:05

How could you reliably search for images of someone's boyfriend though? If she's got you as a FB friend she could've maybe looked through your friends and found him, but otherwise... She definitely did this deliberately, presumably to get a reaction. She sounds unhinged.

RooBee17 · 29/10/2026 18:14

SpainToday · 29/10/2026 17:58

I agree it was definitely out of spite. Is she single by any chance?

She is yes.

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MysweetAudrina · 29/10/2026 18:15

Maybe she thought they were being nosey asking what he was like and she decided to take the piss out of them and give them something to talk about. But if that was the case then I would have expected her to share the joke with you. Anyway nothing wrong with tattoos and piercings but odd if he doesn't have any. Also odd to bring non members to slimming clubs. It's quite personal especially if it's one that calls out weight losses and gains. I wouldn't want someone just there observing.

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