Why would a grown woman do this?

[RooBee17]

I have been attending a local slimming group for almost 2 years now. On the same day i started another new member joined and we became good friends. We socialisd outside of group and took our kids out for days out.
7 months after starting slimming I gained a little confidence in myself and started dating a man I am still with now.
My friend met him once and she seemed really happy for me.
In the past few months my friend gave up slimming so doesn't go anymore so I go it alone.
Recently my boyfriend attended a group with me on his day off work. I have made good friends there and I talk about slimming a lot so he came to check it out.
I returned the following week on my own and the ladies were shocked.
"Your boyfriend isn't what we expected "
I found out from them that on a week I wasn't present my friend showed them a pic of my boyfriend. Except it wasn't him.
It seems she had googled someone with extreme facial tattoos and piercings and claimed it was him!
I messaged her when I got home. It wasn't confrontational. I just said the ladies were a bit surprised when my boyfriend showed up as he wasn't anything like they had been shown and I then mentioned the photo she had showed them.
I don't know what I expected her to say but she just played dumb and said she had no idea what I was talking about.
I can't work it out, but I am done with this friendship now. I really can't be bothered with such childish behaviour.
Just had to get this off my chest!

Sounds like she got it in her head this was your boyfriend (somehow) and is embarrassed that you caught her out laughing about his appearance (if that is what she was doing).

Hard to say for sure because some of the detail provided doesn't make sense.

I think it’s hilarious but I have a weird sense of humour.

I remember telling a group of friends that our friend was in a relationship with a guy like 50 years older than she is.

He was a little older, so she’d say something like we’re hoping to start a family because he wants to do it before he gets too old etc.
And she’d say how she’s trying to make him going to a theme park but he’s such a wimp etc.

We’ve all got the same sense of humour so we all found it funny.

It doesn't matter because it has nothing to do with her thread

Yes. That's what he decided when a few asked if he was coming in. He wasn't sure if he was welcome or not at first.
Luckily the ladies there weren't as weird about it as people on here seem to be.

They think a man wouldn't show an interest in meeting the friends you care about unless he can't stand you having a life away from him and is controlling.

Mind you, if you now find out he's got all their phone numbers and stalks their social media as well as yours ...

Maybe she thought they’d realise it was a joke, and when you questioned her, she realised they’d believed her so she went into “oh shit!” mode and played dumb?

As an aside, I also don’t think Slimming World should be a spectators sport.

Run don’t walk, OP. What a weirdo!

I second @ginasevern Definitely jealousy, and quite warped at that. Glad you’ve got away from her.

People on here are so bizarre. The fact her fella went into the meeting is entirely irrelevant to the situation. Why are people debating the rights and wrongs of it, she hardly murdered a puppy 😂

The friend hasn’t been for a few months. Prior to that, there was at least one week in which OP wasn’t in attendance.

So very weird to bring your boyfriend to slimming club

I wondered that but... Seems like a long time for people to remember a photo and bother commenting. Could have been an ex boyfriend and so on, so why mention the picture after all that time. I dunno. Just odd.

You have been going to slimming club for 10 years 🫣🫣🫣

Maybe reread it….

Not at all. I meant the OP contradicted herself. I don't hate men. I don't especially like them but... I don't hate them 💁🏻‍♀️

You sure? Feels like I'm quoting her OP directly and was then asked by the OP to clarify so feels like the OP thought it was relevant enough to reply to.

I can hardly believe it wasn't some kind of mix up? Or a poorly placed joke?

Like there was a pic of this fella and someone said 'who's that?' and another replied with 'Spain's new boyfriend'. As it was so obviously not someone you would actually fancy. Like being sarcastic. But if she actually meant or in a mean way as the truth that's awful!

Finally, a logical explanation 😂

OP, what other odd things has your ex friend done? Was this the first instance of her doing anything that off?

Op mentioned it in her very own thread

That was very mean and uncalled for.

Just to go back to the topic at hand.... it sounds like a classic case of jealousy to me. Is your DH a looker? It almost sounds like she is trying to bring you down to make herself look better. And also, if she had an image saved, this sounds like the whole story was planned, and I can only assume that the woman is a psychopath! 😂At least it keeps things entertaining...

Oh give over! Go troll somewhere else.

@RooBee17 how long between her showing them a pic of someone else and you finding out has it been, and did you notice anything ‘off’ with her around the time she did it?