man with kids vs without

[GoldenDeliciouss]

this is aimed at mums rather than those without kids so if you are a single mum do you prefer to date a man with kids or without? i also thought id prefer someone without but as ive got older and definitely dont want anymore im now thinking men with kids would be a better option as long as they are same age as mine or older (definitely wouldnt consider someone with young children) so single mums whats your preference when dating?

I’d prefer ideally a man without who is a great uncle and up for being a great step dad then having one more with me. At my age (40) most men seem to have had 2-3 kids already and don’t want more. However if they did want to consider more then I’d happily date them as long as they were able to move to my area etc (so doenst work with 5050 dads living far away, and then I’m suspicious if they’re not 5050 - are they lazy or useless?).

id consider someone with a younger child than mine but would need to really reassured about suspicions that to break up at this age would mean he was a useless partner or cheated or he abandoned her when she was postpartum. If they got along fine and he does a decent amount of parenting which she gave without court etc this would be a promising sign.

Send these men who want them and are happy to date 40 yo single mums my way please I don’t meet any!

Imo, a man doesn't have kids 'yet'

Unless they're 90, assume they might still want them whenever the mood strikes them

For dating - rich childless men

For love - rich men who've had their kids and are visibly tired and clearly dont want anymore

Why do you need a rich man? Surely you earn your own £?

Why would i date a broke man? 🤢

A man should improve my life, by buying me Prada 🥰

I prefer men that have kids around a similar age to mine, late teens/adult, I wouldn’t date men with very young kids as they are likely to have less child free time than me but I wouldn’t risk a man without kids, in case he wants his own/dislikes them, wants to constantly holiday or do lots of expensive activities which I wouldn’t be in a financial position to match, they are less likely to understand.

Ah I see - you're being sarcastic! 😄

I decided I didn't want to date a man with kids - I had two of my own. Don't agree with blending families and didn't have the funds to.
Worked well for me - been together a drcade, married for 5. Kids now both young adults.

I find such a categorical no a bit sad. I have a wonderful blended family, 2 kids each. They were 10 and 12 on one side and 4 and 10 on the other when we first met 11 years ago. All get on well like biological siblings and indeed refer to each other as brothers and sisters.

and he didnt want any? i wouldnt mind a man without kids but only if he didnt want his own, i imagine that would be extremely hard to find

Is this meant satirically, I hope...? First of all thrre is quite a lot between rich and broke, And second, why do you need a man to buy you stuff. 🙄

There are no guarantees that they would all get on well. I wouldn’t want to live with another man’s children because it doesn’t appeal to me.

I’m in a relationship with someone with a son. Yes sometimes it would be nice to have more time just us and his son and my dds don’t really get on, but that’s ok as we’ve no intention of blending. I get on really well with his son and bf gets on well with my dds although he rarely sees them.

I didn’t set out with a preference but I realise now that it’s ideal as if bf didn’t have kids himself he’d probably want to be at my house more, sleeping over etc when the girls are here and i definitely don’t want that.

because he’s busy with his ds too (has him all the time) he totally gets that kids come first. We’re now pretty much in teen territory which means kids can be left so that helps in terms of carving out some time with each other for dates etc.

I have teenagers. DP has teenagers. We completely understand each others’ priorities. We have no plans to blend our families. In fact it is that mutual non-expectation that slows down the relationship and avoids moving too fast. Suits me. Suits him. But we are on our 50s, neither wants more children, and feel no pressure to think too far ahead.

I feel like now - i've done the love thing

I want to be taken care of.

@FunPartyIdeas being serious 😄

To be fair, men in the first group might have been messed around in a long-term relationship. I know one quite well who was, we always think of it being men who mess their partners around, but it goes both ways.
If I was single, I wouldn't want to date while the kids were young, whether the person had kids or not. Not saying everyone is a predator, obviously, but I just wouldn't want the risk of kids being upset or messed about if we broke up.

A man with kids in my experience - then they have time with their kids and aren't in your face wanting to see you constantly which I find claustiphobic

do you assume that if a woman wants kids but doesn't get chance to have them, then it's cos there's something wrong with her?

I think lots of men want kids with the right woman if it happens, but wouldn't leave a relationship if they didn't get one. DH was late 30s and childless when we met. we now have 3, and he's fab, but I think he's also have been fine if he never had them to know what he was missing out of

He'd always wanted bio kids, but he and wife were not blessed and he had got to an age where (40s) where there was an acceptance it wasn't going to happen.

i still think its quite rare for a man to not have kids, not want his own but happy to date a single mum but wouldnt turn one down if i manage to find that rare one!

@GoldenDeliciouss I guess it depends on what sort of age the men are you are looking to date?

@hotmumshit So you're a gold digger?

No!! I wouldnt date someone just because they're rich!

But i only want to date someone who can take care of me, honestly.

Like I said, a gold digger.
Can't you take care of yourself?