Is a fetish necessarily a sign that someone can’t function without it

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If someone tells you that they have a kink or fetish but that it’s not essential for their sex life, is this realistic? I know that I’ll probably get responses from people with prejudices but I was wondering if someone who has experienced this can offer practical advice.

Im fairly open but not always the best with setting boundaries and whilst I’m ok to explore I don’t want to sleepwalk into a situation where I am expected to cater to a special need.

I have no reason to believe that he was untruthful about what he said but since I am unfamiliar with this I am not sure how to approach it. He hasn’t suggested trying anything btw but mentioned it so I’m wondering about it because I suspect that the topic will probably come up sometime.

Since when has 'weird' meant dangerous?

Who wants to spend time with someone whose conversation is entirely mundane?

Okay but it doesn't mean that regardless of your personal experiences.

OP said he was a bit odd and talked about weird stuff.

I don't think the PP inferred or said this man might be dangerous? Probably just meant someone bringing weird stuff up and a domination fetish early on might not be a great bet unless you're into weird stuff and domination.

Boring fetishy men... yawn.... get some decent hobbies FGS!

So depends on the person, situation, your position on it, and general personality. You can have a “thing” for something without it being all encompassing or you can have a “thing” that is central to your identity I suppose. Getting turned on by x isn’t necessarily an all or nothing but can be for certain people.