Is it a dealbreaker if a new guy doesn’t go down on you?

[TheNotSohill]

For a bit of context I met a guy on hinge a couple months ago and we have started being exclusive. Things are going really well but in the bedroom he doesn’t want to go down on me for some reason. I didn’t want to ask why because I do like him but oral is really important to me and the fact he’s not willing to do it is causing me with a bit of a dilemma. What do you think I should do?

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He’s probably read about the risk of throat cancer associated with giving women oral sex. It’s typical that it’s not associated with blow jobs.

TheNotSohill is a guy having a wank over this thread. Or its you, namechanged

It’s weird and probably misogynistic so yes it should be a deal breaker if that’s the case. If it’s not that he won’t do it but more that he’s a bit insecure then it’s different. Ask him next time you see him.

Eurgh I hate it

You can't assume everyone does it as part of their regular experiences. He may have previously been with someone who doesn't want it. I think you need to check first before ditching him.

I would. And do. And as a loving partner he completely accepts that.