The moment your crush withered?

[MarilynMerlot]

What was the moment the lightbulb came on for you and a mad crush just died?

I’ve posted about this before but the moment that killed a totally consuming crush was he developed a fixation on keto, ‘raw food’ and intermittent fasting, and I saw him eating ‘dinner‘ that was just four plain very soft-boiled eggs and then lick the yolk off the plate and I nearly threw up. He also called it the ‘keto protocol’ with a serious face like he thought he was in the army, in some ways that was even worse.

What are they meant to do in hot weather? surely a sandal is better than a sweaty foot in trainers /boat shoes without socks

Eeew.
I always remember seeing French singer Sasha Distel being interviewed on TV. He was a very handsome, charming man....apart from the gathered saliva, a total turn off.

My husband wears sandals (no socks) a lot in the summer.
The grandkids call him Jesus.🙄

I love how easily women can be put off because we don’t have the testosterone driving us 😂

As a 17 yo I had a crush on a 24 yo who actively rejected me during my first uni year. In high school I had written 64 (!) letters to him that I never sent but summarised exchanges we had where I used to see non-existent signs of interest on his side.

Started having relationships at uni etc. Never fully forgotten as it was the unexpressed teenage crush which never became reality so I still idealised it.

Years later, I re-read the letters and our conversations and realised for the first time that his opinions on everything were extremely right winged 😫

On a slightly different note, my teenage irl crush is now a reasonably famous actor, and he’s still crush-worthy

I was on a small group adventure holiday in the USA and seriously fancied the tall, handsome Dutch doctor who was part of the group. We even had a drunken snog. I started planning my move to Amsterdam, lovely tall babies etc. Then on the last day of the trip he emerged from his tent wearing a bum bag money belt. And sort of fussily started fiddling about with the money in it, tightening the belt around his waist etc.

I can’t describe the immediate ick I experienced watching him do that.

I was the same when I met a good-looking man online who turned out to have a high-pitched voice, almost like a woman's.

And also when the gorgeous, sophisticated-looking man I'd fantasised about from afar turned out to have the voice of an Essex car salesman. And before anyone has a go at me for stereotyping, he did indeed turn out to be a vehicle salesman from the South-East, albeit not of cars. Also, his spelling was crap e.g. mixing up their/there/they're. I know it's possible he was dyslexic, but it put me off.

As a teenager, was actually dating my crush and thought he was wonderful. Until one evening, sitting on the sofa with his arm around my shoulders I looked up to gaze lovingly at him and I could see right up his nose. I realised that he had huge nostrils and it was like a bucket of icy water had been thrown over me. My crush disappeared instantly. 😂

I pictured him turning round and saying that in the manner of a CBeebies presenter.

I had a crush on a guy in 6th form. He had brown, curly hair and gorgeous sexy brown eyes. He didn’t give me the time of day. Years later I looked him up to find that he is fat, bald, and an absolute bore about a particular football team. He always was very cocky. But that turned to an ick!

My crush was a ruggedly handsome workmate and I finally got off with him at a staff Christmas party. Back at my place doing the deed and he started saying in a “sexy” growl (vom!) “I’m riding you like a little pony “. My hardly suppressed laughter was taken as a sign of enthusiasm!

Yeah. Not me but my sister. She'd been dating this guy for about a year. He was staying over at our place, and she told me with dead seriousness the next morning, "I just saw his toes peeping out of the blanket and they're so hairy they look like a tarantula is hiding under my blanket. There's tarantula legs in my bed. I think it's over."

And it WAS over. He was upset and perplexed, because she couldn't tell him why because she didn't want him to get a complex about his tarantula toes.

To be fair, his toes were pretty hairy but I think noticing them just precipitated to her how incompatible they were.

I met this guy at uni. He was gorgeous. Soft blond curls, blue eyes, fit body and very very funny. We flirted for ages and eventually I invited him back to mine. We'd DTD for the first time and he went and had a bath after. I sat on the bathroom floor while he bathed feeling all swoony and loved up.
Then he told me he'd had a piss. In the bath. While I was sat next to him.

Instant turn off.

Ok so mine is a bit different as mine was a celebrity crush….Des Lynam…( extremely outing ) not just years of Crushing on him….but decades…no one could ever understand it but I thought he was the most gorgeous sex-god-on-legs for a lonnnnnng time, until my husband played an absolute blinder and bought me his autobiography ( in all good faith he said) ….omfg !!!! I don’t think I’ve ever read such boring tripe in my life ( apart from the 50 Shades trilogy) …so there I was , my bubble well and truly burst after decades of long distance lust….

Probably, now you come to mention it. 😄

Agree there's not many helpful alternatives. I don't actually think men shouldn't wear sandals, that would be ridiculously prohibitive of me. I just unfortunately think many men have ugly feet so would personally rather not see them in sandals. DH wears trainers all year round, by choice - I wouldn't attempt to dictate his footwear choices to him, but on balance I'm quite glad he prefers trainers (thankfully he doesn't have too much trouble with sweaty feet, otherwise I might feel differently!)

'Another couldn't tell a sparrow from a blackbird'

😂

Asked me a question and then interrupted me to tell me how beautiful I was, then again to ask me to look into his eyes ‘really close to’ whilst I answered, then another time to tell me he knew I felt the same as him about everything. He was so disappointing.
I can confirm that it is not possible to answer a question and look at someone ‘really close to’ without laughing.

First boyfriend, together two and a half years, blonde, blue-eyed, gloriously high cheekbones, slim surfer type with washboard abs and a science degree, all going great.

Then one day before we were about to jump into bed, he took off his jeans and he was wearing these black, slightly baggy swimsuit-fabric undies with tie-sides that he had picked up in an adult shop and obviously thought were super-sexy. I could barely touch him. Then a week later he shaved off all his hair and he looked like a neo-Nazi and it was over forever for me. Yes, I am terribly shallow.

Not really a crush but an ex-BF. He had flat feet and no shape to his legs. They looked like tree trunks, although he wasn’t fat. He’d also lost weight but hadn’t toned up so was ‘skinny fat’ and kind of soft which made him look feminine. He looked fine with clothes on and he’s a really nice guy - happily married now etc. - but he was so not my type, I learned.

Oh, you just reminded me that the ex-BF I talk about above also shaved his hair off! He looked like a muslim convert or something, I barely recognised him and couldn’t go near him until it grew back.

Mine is an egg one too - not exactly a crush but you know when you have a dream about someone and you wake up with confusing, almost residual feelings about them? I had one about a guy at work, went in the next day and was having a conversation with him and others over lunch and he ate a hard boiled egg. When he'd finished, some of it was stuck to his lip and any confusing feelings left over from the dream at that point completely evaporated.

Lovely tall babies 😆

It wasn’t far off that! He even put his hand to his chest to emphasise his surprise!

He’d literally heard me pull up 45 seconds prior and told me where to park and told me to enter through the wide open front door!