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Boyfriend said love you by accident, should I mention it?

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Titchyglitch · 14/08/2026 07:39

Hi I’m looking for some female perspectives on a situation that happened last night. I’m torn between following my gut to just treat it as a funny, isolated incident, or if I should actually address it.

My boyfriend (48M) and I (45F) have been together for a few months. We both have our own places, busy independent lives, and see each other a few days a week. Honestly, everything is going incredibly well. We’ve met each other’s friends, have fun together, and speak most days without any pressure or heavy expectations.

In the beginning, he was very vocal about how much he liked me. That slowed down a bit, but recently on a very romantic date (with a bit of wine involved), we both confessed we felt like we were falling for each other. We haven't brought that up since, just enjoying life.

He went out for a work do last night, had a few drinks, and called me on his walk home. It was a really fun, entertaining call and he was cracking me up. When he got home, he said he was heading to bed and signed off with: “Love you, night.”

Because he’d been drinking, it sounded maybe like muscle memory or autopilot, so I just laughed. I wasn't about to say it back in that context. But he quickly, panicked and went, “OH FUCK.”

He didn’t hang up, but he started stuttering, got super awkward, and mumbled, “Ok, well, good night.”

My instinct is to not mention it again and just pass it off as an amusing drunken slip. We already know we are happy, so maybe it's not that deep? But his panic reaction makes me wonder if I should be reading more into it!

How would you read this? Should I leave it alone or does the "Oh Fuck" reaction warrant a casual chat when he's sober? Part of me would rather not know the truth!

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Beepybopp · 16/08/2026 20:15

ps telling someone you love them is not 'a risk'. This isn't some game where the first one that cracks loses. You have a lot of growing to do op. Hopefully your lovely sounding partner will be kind and patient while you catch up. Good luck

Titchyglitch · 17/08/2026 10:10

I said it and he said it back 🥰

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JayJayj · 17/08/2026 10:24

Awww that’s really sweet!!

Titchyglitch · 17/08/2026 10:40

He said this so I am a dick I’m aware 😂

Good morning. I hope you have a great break away and get some relaxing time in. I love you as well and hope life just keeps getting better x

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