Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 4 years. During an off period, he met with this woman who lives nowhere near us; she lives out of state. Anyways, it was apparent to me that they were talking for monthssss before meeting. This was when we were off. Anyways, they met up, apparently hooked up one time, and have been in contact off and on for a year and some months straight.
In the grand scheme of all of this, he recently invited her on a fully paid trip months ago, where he degraded her and put her down, talked about other women in front of her, and tried to make her jealous the whole trip.
I know all of this because months later, she contacted him going off about how he made her feel. He then sent a long apology text to her.
We’ve been back talking, and I found messages of him trying to contact her, saying “he misses her” and that he wants to “run it back with her again.” She was in our state visiting, and he was spamming her, telling her, “See me before you leave,” literally talking to himself in their messages.
He claimed that the trip meant nothing and that his feelings never went deep with her, and that’s why it never turned into anything worthwhile with her. Yet how are you still communicating with someone you’ve only seen a total of three times in the course of a year and a half? Why do you still want to be in communication with her when you put her down and tell me how she’s not what you look for in a woman and how she doesn’t have her life together?
I’m confused and conflicted. I want to believe him and move on from this… What do I do??