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worried about what happens when his visa runs out now im pregnant

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TreadlngWater · 07/08/2026 22:12

Title: worried about what happens when his visa runs out now im pregnant

Hi, I dont really know where to start with this but im getting really worried about it now and its probably because im 34 weeks pregnant and everything is getting to me

My boyfriend has 3 years left on his visa and it runs out in 2029, when we first got together I didnt really think about it because it seemed so far away but now we have a baby on the way im starting to think what actually happens if he cant stay

He is here legally before anyone asks, im not worried about him being here now its more what happens when it expires and if he doesnt get residency or whatever he needs next

I keep thinking surely having a baby here must count for something? Or does it not make any difference because the baby is his anyway

I know 2029 sounds ages away but it doesnt to me now, especially when you have a baby and your whole life is planned around them. I dont want to be sat here in a few years with a child and having to think about him leaving

Maybe im being stupid and overthinking it but has anyone actually been in this situation

I just want to know if the baby gives him any sort of rights or if im completly wrong about that

Sorry if this is obvious I just cant stop thinking about it now

OP posts:
savemydrawers · 08/08/2026 22:16

I would have been thinking about this from before I was getting pregnant.

RainbowRoadshow · 08/08/2026 22:45

OP, I work at the Home Office in Asylum/Refugee Resettlement. Please do not take anything at face value in any replies you've had so far, as nearly every one has contained some incorrect information, even if the odd one is broadly accurate. People in my department, myself included, have to consult the legal team most days because immigration law is so complicated and we need to check our understanding of complex policy is correct. No offence to anyone here at all, but unless they're an immigration lawyer they're basically guessing. You need to get yourself a reputable immigration advisor. If you contact the charity Migrant Help they can offer advice, provide you with a list of qualified legal reps and put you in touch with interpreters if needed.

You're doing the right thing by trying to get on top of this now as the system is glacial, and you also need to keep in mind that the law can change at anytime. Good luck with it all.

ProudOpalRobin · 08/08/2026 23:04

how did you meet him? Does he want you to convert to his religion?

AcrossthePond55 · 08/08/2026 23:15

@TreadlngWater

FGS whatever you do, do NOT marry him! Not because he's Syrian, or Muslim, or a refugee. But simply because his legal situation is unsettled. You could find yourself married to someone who has had to return to Syria. You could find yourself married to a man who seriously 'misrepresented' himself. Personally I think it's more of a red flag that he doesn't speak to his family. Even if they were from the next town over I'd consider that a red flag until I truly knew why. There is not one single member that he speak to?

Just see that immigration lawyer and find out what's what. Have the solicitor help him do what he needs to do to stay (if that's possible). Just don't marry him. And also, seriously consider not putting him on the birth certificate. Syria is not a Hague signatory.

Notcominhomenow · 08/08/2026 23:20

Please don't think marrying him will solve all your problems. There is a minimum income threshold to meet to get that visa, you'd need to be earning £38k I think it is, plus the fees are eye watering.

People don't realise how hard the government has made it now for British people to have relationships with foreigners.

DefiantRabbit9 · 09/08/2026 00:28

A lot depends on the visa type. My husband is american so needs a visa. We're on a spousal visa which is a subtype of family visa and we're going for indefinate leave to remain. There is a form of family visa to apply as a parent of a child with a british citizen or person with settled status. They are arduous and expensive to get but it's something you should consider strongly.

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oldFoolMe · 09/08/2026 08:51

All the hate here because he is a migrant ! Half the posts on mn are of either a cheating or lazy or selfish man. Its not migrants that are the issue, its men. You could meet an English man and he ups and leaves or cheats on you. A refugee is not an asylum seeker, they have asylum and no need to marry someone for the visa, they already have it.

probablyamunreasonable · 09/08/2026 09:42

oldFoolMe · 09/08/2026 08:51

All the hate here because he is a migrant ! Half the posts on mn are of either a cheating or lazy or selfish man. Its not migrants that are the issue, its men. You could meet an English man and he ups and leaves or cheats on you. A refugee is not an asylum seeker, they have asylum and no need to marry someone for the visa, they already have it.

His Visa runs out in 2029, that’s the whole point of the thread and why the OP is asking for help and advice.

Though he needs to be sorting this out himself rather than her doing it for him.

Victorius19 · 09/08/2026 09:49

This all sounds a bit troubling OP, in honesty. There are huge cultural differences and if he does end up having to return to Syria is he going to be willing to leave a child behind here in the UK?

I would suggest that you read up on custody laws and speak to a specialist lawyer on this before you start worrying about his Visa status.

Dobeebeedah · 09/08/2026 13:57

He is not a 'migrant' he is a Refugee. If he takes DC to Syria to visit his relatives you are unlikely to see that child again as they are not signatories to the Hague Convention. Get your child a passport as soon as they are born, with only you registered as the parent.

Nogoodusername · 09/08/2026 17:31

murasaki · 08/08/2026 21:37

Isn't it ten years now not five?

proposals introduced by the Home Secretary in May are to increase settlement pathways it to 10 years as a baseline, 15 years for people on a health and care worker visa, and potentially up to 20 years for those with refugee status. It’s very complex - an earned settlement model where you can shorten (or lengthen) your pathway qualification period on a number of factors including salary, ‘integration’ etc. still proposals currently, waiting to see whether they get modified (or not) by Burnham.

DefiantRabbit9 · 09/08/2026 19:06

Notcominhomenow · 08/08/2026 23:20

Please don't think marrying him will solve all your problems. There is a minimum income threshold to meet to get that visa, you'd need to be earning £38k I think it is, plus the fees are eye watering.

People don't realise how hard the government has made it now for British people to have relationships with foreigners.

Ain't that the truth. That said I can't blame them. The amount of times I've seen someone in their 50's marrying someone half their age then when the passport comes through they dip that person starts ranting that it's all the governments fault. Just makes it harder for those of us who are genuine.

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