How to cope with daughters ocd on holiday?

[AnotherNcagain]

Hi all, can anyone give me some tips for helping my older daughter on holiday with her ocd. My younger daughter broke down crying last week saying she was worried about my older daughter and I arguing on holiday. Ages 15 and 20 respectively. My plan is to avoid any triggers for her unhelpful thoughts but I know they will still come. We are sharing a room which makes it more intense. However it’s a luxury resort so I couldn’t afford a second room. Plan is that when we get back she sees a psychologist, I have already contacted a few. I don’t know what I want from this thread, a bit of advice and a handhold I guess …

Correction to this, I typed autistic/AUDHD and it autocorrected.

I have very mild OCD but it only tends to kick in when I am at home. The Intrusive thoughts are more linked to my experience of anxiety than the OCD. If I am on holiday I seem to function great without the need to perform the safekeeping rituals of OCD. I get back home full of resentment that I feel compelled to perform these. I even manage for a few days to dispel with them completely. Then something might happen that makes me think, its because I didn't do the rituals it happened. Fortunately, it really does not intefere in my everyday. They are very minor actions, but they do give me inner comfort. The agitation I feel when I do not perform them is far worse than doing them. Except, when on holiday and I do not experience the urge and it feels so liberating. I also think the more you try not to have intrusive thoughts etc, the more they appear. The key is to try and accept them, not balk from them. The brain is hardwired into habits of these thoughts and although they might seem like they appear from nowhere, they are a subconscious thought that most people are unaware they are having. It is a bit like brain gut axis incidents. It can also be compared to the panic attack fear that one might have an attack, and this thought train almost certainly causes it to happen. We are so in control of our own thoughts and actions that most of us hold the key to unlocking these distressing experiences. However, we also know that if it was that easy none of us would put ourselves through this in the first place. I hope your daughter manages to conquer this.