Feeling worthless

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Any advice on how to stop feeling worthless as a single mum and that no man would ever be interested in me? Realistically I know some single mums do meet new partners but I feel that will never happen for me now.

There are men ready to shag anything and everything that moves. I guarantee you would find willing blokes, the issue is filtering out the quality from the dross.

So when you're ready get yourself in the apps and you will be fine

Wow thanks, im not looking for someone that just wants to sleep with me and dump me. Not sure that was suppose to make me feel better?

Some will want more some won't but that is the same at all stages of life

This does sound a bit rude. I think you mean the OP won’t have trouble finding someone but whether they’re a catch or not remains to be seen?!

Certainly wasn't my intention to be rude.

But I guarantee you there is no woman out there that will find it difficult to date, regardless of whether they have kids.

You're not worthless if no men are interested in you. Your value isn't determined by the opinions of men. Know your worth, and if no men want to date you then they aren't good enough for you anyway.

You didn’t speak about dating, you said I would find a man that would sleep with me. Well that doesnt help when lots of people say single mums are only good enough for sex

Yes I think I get what @FannyCraddocksPantryis trying to say but that’s not what you’re asking.

Like I don’t need telling that there will be men that want to sleep with me, im pretty sure I know that 🤦‍♀️

I said single mums meeting new partners, not finding men to sleep with them.

Why do you think it won’t happen ?

You're not worthless, why are you being so hard on yourself, you've bought up a child, that's a great life achievement in itself. Do you have friends, work, family, get any time to yourself. How old is your dc. Would you enjoy joining groups , volunteering or taking up a hobby. The more you look for a partner the less they seem around, they seem to turn up when you least expect it.

How old are you and the kids how many kids you have.

I think a lot of people will argue against this too.
Both people with and without kids.

You’re really not helping OP or others with these type of posts.

I reckon you would find meeting people in real life more worthy than meeting online. When you meet someone in real life you are able to suss them out. Someone I know asked her friends if they knew any man who was kind gentle etc and got to meet the love of her life. From what I have read on here not many have met their life partner online. I would not use that way if I wanted to meet a kind loving gentle person. I would suggest meet people at places where your kids are also welcome eg sports, family quiz events are a possibility maybe.

I think you need to sit down and have a difficult conversation with yourself and try to work out why you are feeling like that.

Once you know, work on your self confidence. It’ll take time, but you need to realise that you have a lot to offer, and that you deserve to be happy and have a relationship where that other person values you highly.

If you go out there without that self belief you will only attract those looking to take advantage.

Im 37 with 3 kids

Ex told me no one would want me now and so did my family

It will have to be online as men dont approach me outside so if I waited for that it would never happen.

Ignore them, he's an ex for a reason and your family sound very unkind.

I think you should do some work on yourself before you are ready to start a new relationship.

The fact that you think you are worthless without a man is really concerning and could lead to you making some bad decisions that could harm you and your DC.

Well he left me so not sure that counts 🤣

I think you need to lose the label "worthless single mum" and take pride in what you are.

Single mums are brilliant. I've been single since ds was 2. I, like many single mums have:

• raised a secure, polite, decent, healthy, well educated young man by myself
• worked full time
• bought us a house
• taught him to swim, cycle, ski
• cooked him decent healthy food
• seen him through 10 GCSEs and 3 A'levels.
• am about to support him at uni.

I'd rather wonder are there any men out there who are good enough for us !! Never under value yourself OP. xx

That's because he's a sad insecure knob, and your family are beyond ignorant. Don't take any notice of either OP. You are better than that, and you know it, deep down.

pretty much every single mum I know who has wanted to find a new relationship has done (including me!) so I wouldn’t worry from that perspective.

Please don’t feel worthless, I can guarantee that you aren’t! I’d work on your self esteem and create parts of your life that you love and much as possible even if it’s some at home hobbies, a few ways of centring yourself, bit of exercise, fun things that you do with the DC etc. and only then see if there are any men who will actually add to that.

If you get to that point then join the dating thread on here, it helps so so much to go through it with others and I actually met one of my best friends on there 😳😆. We take our DC away together each year on what might be our favourite holiday of the year (dont tell our DPs 🙈).