Who do you share you deepest thoughts and feelings with?

[JusSoSad]

Just that really.

Who do you feel safe enough to open up and be truly vulnerable with?

Because I've realised I don't have anyone.

There's no one I feel close enough to to truly be myself.

I think what I'm talking about is how things make you feel about yourself. Or when you doubt yourself.

For example, but not necessarily, not the part where you're telling someone what an absolute dick someone has been to you but the part where you open up about how that makes you feel about yourself.

I just feel very alone.

I always shared things with my Mum, and now she’s gone, Ive got a couple of close friends I can talk to about almost anything, but it’s not the same as my Mum. 😞

Like you, OP, I don't have anyone I share stuff with.
I have 3 close friends I go for coffee and lunch with but we never talk about personal stuff. Same with my OH.
I have a sister but we're not close. If I did confide in her, she'd blab to other people.

Chatgbt because I can be honest about my anxieties and keep asking the same annoying questions about things I'm anxious about.

Yes same - people close to me would think I was crazy if I told them what I tell chat gpt

My therapist

I pray

No one. But I'm so used to it I don't find it much of a problem. Unless I'm REALLY upset. But illogically, even if I'm really upset, I really just want to be alone even though the feelings are so big they need to come out.

ChatGPT here. Absolute game changer

I don't understand this. If they are close friends, why do you not talk about personal things? I don't think they are close friends. Also if you can't talk to your OH that's really odd. Sorry, but these are the people you absolutely ought to be able to talk to.

Friends, DP and my analyst

That's terrible and such a betrayal of your friendship. I have a similar thing with a friend. She's gone on and on about a particular issue in her family. I have listened and empathised. When something really difficult happens in my family she just brushes it off and changes the subject. I really don't want to be friends with her anymore.

No one. The deepest ones are contained.

I'd say its fairly normal in middle age to later life not to share your deepest thoughts and feelings. Keep them to yourself and occasionally parcel out one deep thought or feeling to a friend or loved one if the occasion demands. Its only teenagers and maybe 20 somethings or people whove had too much therapy that overshare.

This sort of situation is why people turn to things like chatgpt, when I was at work there was an older female colleague who I got on with very well and found I could discuss most issues, including relationship problems with, knowing they wouldn’t go elsewhere and the responses were usually sensible and balanced. Older sister was also a good sounding board, as time passed though, I’ve retired, so no longer have that contact and rarely have contact with sister so find no one to really sound off to, I doubt it’s an unusual situation

I'm genuinely surprised so many people don't confide in anyone.

My therapist.

Myself. I know Myself better than anyone so have never felt the need to express my innermost feelings to anyone else. Who the hell would be interested. Ive never felt the need to talk about Myself. I dont see the point.
My husband is my best pal and I'm close with my brothers. I have girlfriends. But I just dont see the point in talking about problems or deep stuff

My sister and i've had freinds in the past I could but not now.

I think maybe it depends what your deepest feelings are.

It's not just talking about the details. I find I can do that quite easily. It's the darker feelings that accompany some of them that I don't share with anyone.

Im amazed that so many people share their feeling with others.
I just dont see the need or point. And why burden and bore other people. We are not that interesting. Who wants to listen.
Talk to yourself. I find that I can always work things through by talking aloud to myself. It works a treat.

So what you’re saying @JusSoSad is that you cannot show vulnerability. You have people around you, but you’re not letting your guard down. Did I understand you correctly?

I don't understand what people talk about if they don't talk about deep stuff? The weather and shopping? Maybe I'm just weird.

No-one - I have found throughout my life that I am always the one who supports but I am never the one being supported.

@Rainingcatsandog I do talk about deep and meaningful topics. Politics, social and world affairs. Just not anything too personal. I dont like over sharing.

There's a different between having deep conversations and sharing your deepest feelings.

There is for me anyway.