I'm wondering if my relationship anxiety is making me see things wrong or if this situation would bother other people too.
I had a really long day (worked outside in the rain, went to the gym, grocery shopping, then came home and made my boyfriend dinner, did laundry, and cleaned the kitchen after dinner). I told him I was exhausted, and he responded, "Wow, so being an adult." I felt kind of dismissed because I was hoping for a little empathy.
Shortly after, he came over to hug/kiss me after he had gone to the gym, but he was drenched in sweat. I'd already noticed how sticky he was, so I instinctively leaned away because I didn't want to get covered in sweat.
He took that as me rejecting him sexually and said I was trying to "put him in line" by withholding affection so he'd learn he wouldn't get sex unless he did what I wanted. He also said I was minimizing his masculinity and said I always need to be in control and take that away from him and I don't like him being masculine.
I told him that genuinely wasn't what I was doing, I just didn't want to hug him while he was soaking wet and his hand was freezing from being in on an ice pack so I kinda moved away but he said I was denying the real reason for why I denied his advances. Apparently I got really quiet and ignored him afterwards, I was just doing the dishes and maybe annoyed he wasn't helping, and he took that as me being really upset about something and not being able to tell him the real reason. That it was just all about me not being able to express my true feelings and hiding too much. We have these fights a lot and I panic and apologize, cry, get angry because I just feel him pulling away more and more when we try and talk about it. I end up just agreeing with what he says and say it was probably that, but now it's too late because then that means I was lying earlier to him.
Am I missing something here? Is it reasonable that he interpreted me leaning away from a sweaty hug that way, or does it seem like he jumped to conclusions about my intentions? I genuinely don't know what I feel sometimes until it's too late.