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My boyfriend leaves me repeatedly

109 replies

Blondie35 · 24/06/2026 22:34

So , my boyfriend left me a few days after his birthday. I mean for most of our relationship he always had one foot out the door. I just wanted to build and be committed. He told me so does he. We have a lot of history but he kept getting worse , I can’t put the whole relationship or story on here but recently we were split , he reached out after I went silent , then his birthday came up and I invited him over he was down and we had a great time I thought maybe we were back on track we made love etc , he then struggled with some family issues then a few days went by and I got a long goodbye message…..
blaming things on nonexistent issues….
i then said nothing and we bumped into each other on a beach !
we enjoyed each other , flirted kissed etc , we made love he was telling me that he’s always had feelings and they’re deep feelings. We made love , in the morning I woke up to him telling me he thinks I’m a liar and we didn’t meet on the beach by accident, apparently I planned the whole thing, he went nuts , saying I’m lying , he’s been trying to leave me but I keep coming back even though he participates in it too !
he tells me how much he “loves me”
he’s now left me again … told me I was the one who fucked it , clearly manipulated me…. Used me and I’m just heartbroken as I wanted us to have a clean slate , that’s what I said to him and for him to just commit to the it relationship … he spoke about the so called “drama” he doesn’t like but he literally created it…. I just feel terrible

OP posts:
imogensmith123 · 26/06/2026 10:24

you deserve better

DaisyChain505 · 26/06/2026 11:48

Blondie35 · 25/06/2026 13:17

The thing is I’m stable , grounded , never walked away , genuinely love him but he’s well like you just described , always walking away !

If you were stable and grounded you wouldn’t be in such a toxic and volatile relationship in the first place. Learn to love yourself more than you love him.

CaptainMyCaptain · 26/06/2026 12:37

vodkaredbullgirl · 24/06/2026 22:40

Run and don't look back

This.

Blondie35 · 26/06/2026 14:34

PetulaGordeno · 26/06/2026 09:16

I have just read your previous threads with my head in my hands.
You sound like a really talented person with a lot to offer and you are continually being used and abused.
The first few months together should be fantastic. Instead you are being used for sex and manipulated by a man who calls you a liar and a c*nt.
Stay with him and it will get worse. You will end up giving up on your singing, you will become even more of a shell which is exactly what he wants.
Why? Because he’s an abuser and he wants control over you. Forget all the flowery language it means nothing.
Stay away from him and his mother as well.
Let him go and find someone else to
use.
If you don’t act now it will get worse. It never, ever gets better.

Thank you for this message , I am out and will not be going back as I do know it’s either my sanity or being a shell. I do realise now after our last encounter, I can let him go and get on because you’re right I would end up giving up on myself and I can happily say I will not do that nor let someone do that to me.

OP posts:
Blondie35 · 26/06/2026 14:35

maybethisyear · 26/06/2026 09:50

DD 23 said ‘tell him to fuck off……oh no - just shoot him so that he doesn’t do this to someone else’.

Love this one 🤣

OP posts:
xino · 27/06/2026 17:42

Well done OP.

Blondie35 · 28/06/2026 23:00

Hi everyone , I have totally finished , blocked bye bye. What’s funny is he started following accounts I hated , half naked women , sexual accounts … hahahah

OP posts:
OMGDidYouSayThat · 28/06/2026 23:33

Blondie35 · 28/06/2026 23:00

Hi everyone , I have totally finished , blocked bye bye. What’s funny is he started following accounts I hated , half naked women , sexual accounts … hahahah

Well done 👏 don’t look back!

FaceIt · 29/06/2026 00:08

Onwards and upwards and don’t look back.
Life is one big lesson. Well done.
It’s his loss not yours.

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