My husband and I are both 47 , 12 years ago he had a vasectomy, after which he ended up impotent ,( we have tried everything to try and resolve the problem ,viagra , testosterone gel and penis pumps nothing worked ) my hubby was feeling that I was missing out , his motto is you only live once ,he kept pressuring me and in the end I reluctantly gave in. He arranged for his friend and I to hook up together , it happened about 5 years ago , afterwards I felt guilty for doing it , and said it wasn’t for me , hubby has been going on for a while about me taking another lover , but I’m kind of not missing sex , as hubby wasn’t very good at anyway ( not that I’d ever tell him , and he is a brilliant man in every other aspect ) , I fear if I did take a lover , it could potentially damage our 20 year marriage what’s your thoughts