Signs your husband/partner loves you

[Lana20]

Hi everyone. A bit random but for me my husband saying he loves me isn’t enough so I always look to actions too. How do your husbands show you love? It’s just a general question out of curiosity. Thanks

Holding my hand, wanting me to move closer on sofa, massages my feet with L’occitane foot cream that he has bought, frequent sex and usually patient when I don’t want it, turns up with unexpected flowers, brings me a sourdough or a croissant, wants to see me all the time, never catch him looking at other women, he’s great with my teenagers and his own, rings frequently through the day. Has always been consistent through nearly 7 years and never sulks even when we have a row. Frequent compliments even when I don’t feel I look great.
Having read the above to myself, I’m grateful 🙏

He fluffs my pillows every time I stay over.

and he always brings me a cup of tea in the morning. Never lets me make him a coffee.

he wants me to chill out and relax

As a man, I can happily say that I put my wife first, she is my queen and I always ensure that she is loved and protected. I bring her tea in bed, walk on the traffic side of the path, I tell her how much I love her every day, always text her, I bought us long distance relationship band so we can buzz each other. I tend to do most the cooking and make sure she has an afternoon snooze. I always make sure she cums…..multiple times. Men, you need to make sure that you protect your woman, she is your queen and needs to be treated like one.

My husband isn’t one for being overly verbally expressing love, he never has been, but it’s all in the actions.

He always puts me and the children first, he priorities us over everything, especially himself.

Whenever we are snuggled up watching a film he always strokes my back or my head because he knows how much I love it.

When he’s at work, or away from the day for example, he will always text me throughout the day to see how I am and check me and the children are ok etc.

He randomly comes home with my favourite chocolates or biscuits just because he walked past them in the corner shop when he was picking something else up and he knows how much I like them.

He will always wash up because he knows how much I hate doing it! And if I’ve had a bad night’s sleep he will always get up 10 minutes early to get the children’s packed lunches done for school so I don’t have to do it.

When there’s washing out on the line and it starts to rain, he’ll always be the one to go and get it in because he doesn’t want me to get wet 🤣

Most Saturday mornings he will bring me up a sausage and mushroom sandwich and a cup of tea so I can have breakfast in bed.

Every 6 weeks he pay for me to have a night away in a gorgeous farmhouse lodge just so I can have some downtime away from the children (as he knows I pick up most of the childcare duties) and it’s bliss. It’s in the most beautiful part of our local countryside and it feels like I’m a million miles away from anyone!

He always lets me choose what film to watch when we have a movie night 🤣

So although he’s not constantly telling me he loves me or cuddling me etc, I know through all his little actions how much I mean to him. Me and the children are so lucky to have him and we know he’d do anything for us.

Arr, this is so lovely!

My husband is always telling me that he sees his role in life is taking care of me and the children and making sure that we are happy.

He always jokes that he comes last in terms of who matters in the household, but he enjoys putting us all first.

His father was exactly the same though so I think he (and his brother, who is exactly the same towards his wife and children) have just been raised to make sure the wife and children are the priority. Admittedly it is quite an outdated view these days, but he genuinely does believe that the man’s role in the family is to make sure everyone is happy, loved, cared for and safe etc.

He is so incredibly selfless and we know we can rely on him for anything.

He absolutely does do the romantic stuff. He randomly gives me presents “because it’s a Friday” and he’s good at tricking me. The latest one was he pointed to a shelf and said how dusty it was so I went to look and there was a present there. Just because. He texts me in work daily and will say that he loves me and misses me. He will compliment me and notice if I’ve done something different with my hair or makeup or clothes. But most of all he’s just gorgeous and kind and my absolute best friend. I know he’s always thinking of me and when we have spent a weekend together he will remark what a lovely time he’s had, even if we haven’t done a great deal. I’ve said it before but we have never argued, despite children , in laws, parents and stepkids. We just work.

He buys me things I say I want, just in passing, to make my life easier. He often brings them home, as a surprise, or ordered them and I'd forgot I'd even mentioned them.

He brings me coffee every single morning.

He buys treats for our dogs because he knows that when they're happy, I'm happy.

He deals with DC car repair, finances etc.

He cleans so I don't 'have to' even though I have more time than he does, generally.

He always asks me if I want a drink before he'll get his own.

When I'm feeling low, he asks how he can help.

He will go on long walks with me, even though he was never really into walking and now suggests routes and times for us to make our routes more interesting.

So many things. I love him so much, ffs.

That’s a different question. The chasing and the early stages do calm down into something more meaningful and long lasting.

Showing love every day in the lovely ways described throughout this thread is meaningful. The early stages of lust and sex is easy and shouldn’t be mistaken for connection.

Of course it’s still important in a long relationship to many people. Like you OP. You want the gestures and romance and there’s nothing wrong with that. What sort of things do you mean? Does he know how much you liked them? If I casually reminisced to my DH that I loved those silk boxers he had in 1991 when we were at uni, he’d Amazon Prime a pair and have them on tomorrow 🤣

(For curious minds - yes he did, but no I did not love them.)

My husband wouldn’t know a romantic gesture if he fell over it in the street. But:

he moved countries when I said I wanted to come back to the UK, at considerable cost financially, emotionally and to an extent to his career

he has supported my career choices consistently

he brings me tea in bed every single morning, now we are retired

he is a brilliant, engaged and supportive step-parent and step-grandparent (that may be marginally more important than tea in bed)

he supports my enthusiasms in practical ways, even when they are not his interests

he makes me laugh, and is still ever so slightly proud of himself that he’s made me happy

he does his fair share of domestic drudgery, and has never thought of it as helping me

Hah, this is one of the ways that I show my husband I Iove him, by making sure I don't put my cold feet on him (it's socks or hot water bottle for me, depending on the weather.

We don’t do lovey dovey text messages but if one of us was away for a few days we’d have a phone call. I don’t really equate texting to romance. In fact I’m not sure what constitutes romance in a long term relationship and even if that’s what I want.

What I have is a strong sense of being securely loved. He fills up my car with petrol and checks the tires if I’m going on a long journey. When it’s cold he gets into bed on my side and warms it up before I get in. When I get home from work he’ll tell me about a dog he met on his walk or about evidence of a family of foxes in the park because these things delight me. If I say I feel ill then he insists I go to rest and he takes over everything as well as bringing me regular treats. He brings me breakfast in bed every day because he’s a morning person and I’m not. He’s arranges a date night, including babysitter, most weeks and we’re having a lot of fun on those.

No, I don't, we don't need to chase each other, we're secure in our love. Life (especially parenthood) is hard, I'm not really looking for excitement, more enjoyment and happiness.

Just thought of another one - both of us will do a shitty job rather than pretend not to notice it needs doing and leaving it for the other.

Pulling his weight at home and with the kids is a big one for me.
he makes me a coffee each morning.
we are generally just considerate of each other. Nice gifts for occasions etc. day to day it’s quite mundane as we have small children, and I think it is hard when you’re in that phase. But we try to let each other do what they need and think of the other.
but for me pulling his weight at home is huge.

I don't think grand gestures show love - it's almost like if I do X that will get brownie points for a month and I won't need to do anything else.
To me, true love is the little things that show they are always thinking of you, putting you first, anticipating your needs, making you feel special and cared for

He’s like a happy lab when he sees me, honestly I could come in from the most shittiest day and his infectious excitement at seeing me makes it all ok.

I’m very weird and autistic and adhd and pretty much have ketchup with all of my food, I’m too anxious to ask when out, he always makes sure I get it

Iam so sorry for your loss ❤️ I don’t think I would know quite what to do without my telly watching hand holding person x

He remembers the small things o mentioned I like all things from food to furniture , he asks my openion on everything even if it doesn’t have anything to do with me , he complements me when I do something new appearance wise , he keeps in touch when out , he makes me coffee in the morning when he hears am up , when he has extra money he asks me if I need anything for myself , he constantly says am a good mum this sounds magical but I actual facts we are so different as people and we have big problems but without this we would have been over years ago .

Mine does this too. 😊

He does me a hot water bottle every night.

He moves his car off of the drive if I am late home from work, so I have somewhere to park.

If he goes on a trip, he buys me and the kids our favourite sweets and changes the bed sheets and leaves them on our pillows with a note saying how much he loves us, and puts a bottle of wine in the fridge for me. He will always bring us all a gift back from the trip.

But most importantly, he loved my parents and took my mum to her chemo or hospital appointments when I couldn’t and advocated for her, and shaved my dad so tenderly, when he was too weak from end stage cancer to do it himself, which made my dad so happy.

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We've been together over 20 years, and i didn't need any chasing! It was blind passion for the first 9 months at least.

I'm also not romantic in the slightest.

He shows his love for me in more ways than I do. But then, I love the kids more than he does, so it evens out.

So they do exist. Not just in fairy tales! You lucky lucky woman. I'm jealous. I've never had the kind of love where my happiness was what mattered most 😒

We don’t live together yet ( over 4 years together)

If I stay at his - he will always make me lunch to take to work with me

Ill sometimes have dinner and evening with him and his DC and then drive to mine (eldest isn’t keen on me staying) - even if it’s really late and he’s tired he will track me on L360 to make sure I get there safely and then send a good night, love having you here text

Coffee made every mornings, often takes extra mornings with the kids so I get a lie in while being a sahm, cleans the kitchen every evening, arranges childcare for surprise date nights, picks up my favourite treat from the shops randomly on his way home from work, comes home as quick as he can to spend time with us.