Signs your husband/partner loves you

[Lana20]

Hi everyone. A bit random but for me my husband saying he loves me isn’t enough so I always look to actions too. How do your husbands show you love? It’s just a general question out of curiosity. Thanks

Things that make me feel especially loved - if we're going on a walk, he always looks out for me when I'm climbing over things (I am prone to clumsiness)

He makes me tea every morning and a flask of coffee to take to work.

We always start and end the day with a cuddle.

He consistently behaves as if he loves me, respects me and likes spending time with me. Plus he pulls his weight at home (and did with the kids when they were children)

@Lana20 i’m watching this one closely, i have the exact same question, wife says she loves me, says shes in love with me but i’m struggling to see how, actions speak louder than words, and i don’t see too many actions.

He always has my back, pulls his weight and more and makes my life so much easier and happier. He shows his love in actions as well as words. Most importantly, he loves the people I love and is very kind. Took me a long time to find him though after kissing a lot of frogs 🐸

Little things like thinking to boil the kettle for my tea, even if he isn’t having one. Making sure things on high shelves have been moved south before he goes away. Pulling his weight with family stuff without bringing asked. Pouring me a glass of wine!

Enjoys my company and wants to be with me. Points out things online or when he sees them that he knows I like but has no interest in. Come back from shopping with a treat I like. Takes interest in my day. Takes my side if needed. Drops anything if there’s a problem to help me. Will reach out for a hand squeeze

Brings me a cup of tea in bed in the morning ☺️ does his fair share of chores, makes me laugh, makes me a hot water bottle when my back hurts! He's good to my family and my best friends. He's always supportive of whatever I want to do. We've been married 36 years and we don't say 'I love you' all the time, we don't need to.

My husband supports every little whim and every silly overly ambitious ambition I have and totally believes in me. He listens to me talk about things he has zero interest in because he likes seeing how happy they make me. He pulls his weight at home even though he has a demanding job. He always wants to hold my hand when we are out and about. I’ve recently been trying to lose weight and he’s been joining me on my workouts so I don’t feel lonely and unmotivated. The list goes on. Overall, he’s just incredibly supportive, I am very lucky.

I’m a widow now but: saying he loved me, held my hand when we were watching TV, always gave me a big hug when he came in from work, cooksed for us at weekends (and he was a tidy cook so no big mess at the end), always took the kids out for a few hours at the weekend so I could do whatever, was happy to host my parents for Sunday lunch most weekends and so on. Basically just made me feel like we were a team and that he respected me. He was not perfect but I never doubted his love for me.

DH always walks next to the traffic when we are out walking, he always stands infront of me when we are going down stairs/ escalators in case I fall. There’s always a cup of tea waiting if he’s up before me. He carries all heavy stuff!! He does all the outdoor garden work and pulls his weight inside. He sends me crap jokes on his lunch break- which make me smile!! He always says I look nice and tells me how gorgeous he thinks I am. We start the day with a kiss and end the day with one, we hold hands sat on the sofa.

My DH brings me tea in bed, let's me have the first shower, does more than his fair share around the home and with 3 teens, does all laundry, patiently helps me with ICT because I'm crap with it, often comes back from shopping with a treat for me, asks me where we should go for holidays and agrees with me, buys me lovely thoughtful gifts for my Xmas stocking, holds my hand when we go out and when we are with friends he compliments me and praises my ideas. He makes me feel good and always has my back. If my knee is hurting he insists I sit down and put my leg up while he brings me coffee. He changed the duvet cover on our bed because he knows I hate doing it. He took on my 3 DC when we married and my 2 DS's had ADHD. He is the best Step-Dad. He always tells people he is lucky to be married to me. I think I'm very obviously the lucky one.

He holds up a sign saying I love you…..

So sorry for your loss @mondaytosunday Your DH sounds wonderful and you must miss him very much. 💐

It’s the little things. How he opens the duvet for me when I get in bed, and snuggles me in. How he tries to make life easier for me in every way, from carrying bags to getting my keys before I even start looking, stroking my hair when I’m feeling anxious because he knows it calms me down. Encourages me to go and have fun. Buying me coffee when he knows I’m running late. Supports me however he can in my work, even if it is just making dinner whilst I finish a project. They all add up.

My DH always thinks of how things may affect me and tries to make sure everything is fair. For example recently he went to a concert which I was fine with, but I had a baby 3 months ago and it was the first time I’d done bedtime with her and our toddler alone. Before he left he did everything he could to make the evening as easy as possible for me by getting food ready for us and taking the toddler on a walk to wear him out. And he’s just bought me concert tickets for a singer I like so that I will get an equal break. From what I’ve heard, I imagine there are a lot of men who would have just gone to the concert and not given their wife a second thought.

He reaches for me when he's asleep - not to be tangled up with me as such, but just a hand on my leg or our feet touching. I have woken up many times with him holding my hand which I find so incredibly loving.. its knowing that even when he's basically unconscious, he wants to be with me - I've never known love like it! I feel so lucky...

buys me mothers day presents that involve me getting away from him and the kids 🤣

So lovely to hear about these loving husbands. So many stories about absolutely useless men. Good to know there are some good uns out there and that they can be celebrated too.

Lots of things but the simplest is that he always looks happy to see me.

It’s definitely the little things. Hearts & flowers type stuff is all very well but the everyday actions count for so much more I reckon. DH rarely buys me flowers but he will bring me my favourite chocolate bar. He makes me a cuppa in bed most mornings. I get sent cute bunny videos or he will tag me in them. He’s brilliant when I’m feeling ill or down & will say “Pull up a husband”. He will go to a film or show because I like it. He’s very physically affectionate. I love the thing that a pp said where he reaches out to touch me (non sexually) in bed, even when he’s half asleep. His hobby is cycling & he will always check if it’s ok with me for him to go. Again, he’s not perfect & can drive me up the wall but I am so secure in his love ❤️

Thanks for the responses. Does anyone expect a lot of romance though for example for them to text a lot of romantic messages or to do things such as when they first met? My husband does alot of the everyday sweet stuff but I just miss how much he chased me before we were married. It all seems boring now

Does she do caring things for you at home, enjoy spending time with you and talking to you. I think for women they need to speak to their men often when they’re apart as they’re quite emotional & it’s definitely important for them to spend time alone with their husbands if they love them. Also does your opinion matter to her & does she come to you first for advice when anything important happens. That’s how I show my husband love through action if that helps

He trusted me and had trust in me, he had my back. He wanted to spend time with me. He always made me a cup of coffee in the morning before he left for work (even if I was fast asleep when he left). If I was on lates dinner would be ready the minute I walked in the door. There were so many little ways he showed he loved me.

Just this morning, we're heading out doing different things. I've got a 2 hr drive and a bit stressed and he'd left a travel mug of tea for me to take. I thought it was his.

If you spend a lot of time apart, then yes I expect lovely messages eg working abroad

Lets me put my cold feet on him to get warm, without complaint.