Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

I don’t ‘track’ him as I have no need to, as we always know where each other is, but I do check it to make sure he’s arrived safely as he does a lot of long distance driving, including with the children. I find it reassuring to know they’ve reached their destination safely.

As usual, a huge, often nasty, debate over tracking apps. It works for some, not for others – everyone just needs to get over what others choose to do.

Try driving home on the M25 for 40 minutes every day. Whether my husband is home on time to eat with us is entirely dependent on the traffic/stupidity of other drivers rather than a lack of organisation 😵 It’s such a wildcard of a road. Having the Whatsapp tracker on means he doesn’t have to stop to text or call me.

He, along with our five year old, was recently stuck on it for eight hours!

What I'm finding strange in the responses of people who use tracking for apparently innocuous reasons like dinner is "DH / DP / DC could turn it off if they want".

My question is - could they turn it off without you being suspicious or questioning it?

If not, why not?

I think it’s strange that people think tracking indicates a lack of trust.
i trust my partner.
I’m also smart enough to know that he could be shagging someone in the office for all I know, and sharing locations wouldn’t tip me off to that.

Our whole family is on Life360. I can see his location but so can our teenager. It’s handy to check how far away from home he is when I start dinner. We also do a separate activity at the same time on the weekend and both use it to find each other to meet up afterwards. It’s handy when one of us is travelling as it tells you when the plan lands. I travel more than he does and I know he finds it reassuring to know I’ve got places quickly. I trust him 100%.

We have location sharing on but then I also do with my adult kids. Not sitting there staring at it all day. Nothing about tracking, it’s just useful sometimes - my kids use it to see if I’m home before they pop around.

I work away a lot, on my own, also means my husband can see where I am, if I’ve got to where I am meant to be safely…

Same as lots here, I sometimes track him to see if he’ll be home in 10 or 40 minutes.

Older DC at uni other are on there as well. They turned it off as teens, but don’t anymore. I never go looking for them, but I love seeing them when I lose my phone in the house (often).

And as usual it’s the anti- trackers who just cannot fathom that what doesn’t work for them, works for others.

As a family, we all have ‘Find My’. I don’t track my husband as a matter of course, but it’s a useful thing to have and sometimes it can be reassuring.

Whenever this subject pops up on MN, you get all the comments re insecure/controlling/weird. For us it’s just handy. We have absolutely nothing to hide.

Neither of us do. There are some things that have to be taken on trust. It works both ways.

As for losing phones I generally know where mine is - tethered to its charger!

We don't.
However everytime dh uses our joint debit card it flags up on my phone so I have a rough idea anyway.
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If he’s coming back from being out of town and there are train delays or similar, yes, I do, so I can see if he’s making progress.

I’ve just finished a 10k across fields and bridle paths and canals. My husband knows how long this should take me and can see where I am (aka track me!) should I injure myself or something untoward happens. It’s not him I’m suspicious of, it’s everyone else.

God no, it would be so dull. Work, local glen to walk the dog, sofa.

I don’t track my husband. I could see where he is if I wanted to using find my phone. Or more accurately, where is phone is. They aren’t necessarily the the same.

No one is suggesting tracking someone’s movements as an exciting passtime.

It’s not an instead of Netflix type thing.

Yes we track all the households phones. It's been very useful when phones have been lost, my DH has managed to leave it on buses and trains several times. I do also use it for when to put dinner out, as DH works variable hours and there's about an 90 minute window he could leave work in, and it depends on the day so he wouldn't tell me in advance. Useful to see where the kids are when I'm at work too. Useful to see if DH has stopped for shopping on the way home. Lots of reasons really it's very handy. No trust issues in our relationship, and either of us could turn it off at any time which would be fine, but we we both agree it's helpful.

My teenager sons suggested we all use life360 so I can see everyone on there. Will often check when I'm making dinner to see how far away everyone is. I don't see an issue with it. My eldest has just started driving and likes us knowing where he is.

You can set you phone up to most cars if that helps , so you can do it hands free

Sounds like most people use it because they’re bad at basic communication.

Another one who finds it really useful. We’ve got teens who need picking up from random places, and a tradesman partner who could be all over the place so might be home at 5 or 9. So I use it to coordinate dinner and lifts etc.
not sinister, just practical reasons.

My husband doesn’t like using the phone at all in the car. He finds it overly distracting. He won’t ring me either if he knows I’m driving unless it’s an absolute emergency. Knowing what time I will be home for dinner isn’t classed as an emergency.

I have loads of people on Find My Friend - I probably look at DH the least! Though he travels a lot by air for work so I sometimes check that he’s on his train from Gatwick or whatever. But I have my mum and dad, my adult siblings, several friends. If I zoom out to look at a map of the world I have friends all over and I might message one and say “what are you doing in Wisconsin then?”

And I’ve had a friend also departing from Heathrow come and give me a shock and we had a drink before our respective flights which was so nice. I hadn’t seen her for about 18 months and it was great.

Obviously don’t share your location with people you don’t like!