Top 3 personality traits you would avoid in a partner

[SophieLakeside]

What are the top 3 personality traits that you don't want to see in a potential partner?

Mine are:-

1. Dishonesty
2. Arrogance
3. Selfishness

Underachieving / unmotivated
Dependant
disloyal

i would stay with mental health as long as they do something about it and don’t become a mental and physical drain- I have been there and done it and it helps no one.

i think if you have experience of it it does give you a bespoke point of view (as the supportive partner) and I personally could not go through it again

AVOIDANCE

Avoid at all cost a man with an avoidant personality.

Substance user to any degree, especially alcohol. I can cope with caffeine.

Any ADHD trait. Ex wife was the poster girl and I am very wary. This includes the bloody unbearable traits of lateness, poor time management, weak organisational stills and pathological untidiness. No thank you.

Depression and anxiety.

• being hung up on appearing 'masculine' or having any notions of 'men should be/do THIS'
• Emotionally immature
• Sulking

Jealousy
Possessiveness
Rudeness

Yes Badbadbunny nailed it. I agree with all of this too.

Unreliability
Dishonesty
Being Ostentatious.

Psychopathic
Narcissistic
Addictive

The three in my most toxic relationship

Unfaithful and flirtatious with women
Never apologised or admitted fault
Workaholic

Laziness - in terms of exercise and being active.
Unmotivated at work. Don’t need a high achiever, just someone who works hard and takes pride in their work.
Racist - absolute no no. Even the slightest hint of racism.

1. Dishonesty
2. Aggression
3. Lack of hygiene

Compartmentaliser/secretive.
Dullness and no ability to add anything interesting to a situation.
Those "peaked in their youth" types that only talk about past things and have a bumblingly pointless present/future.
Inability to change or adapt.
Men who don't move for others on the pavement. That obliviousness speaks volumes (see also; dismissive or rude to wait staff, cleaners, anyone they perceive as lesser).

And my main one... When their words and their actual actions DO NOT MATCH. Immediate no.

1. mean with money - personality
2. doesn’t work - lifestyle
3. doesn’t read - lifestyle
4. interested in conspiracy theories - lifestyle
5. poor or no sense of humour - personality
6. no conversation - personality

Avoidant
Addict
Aggressive

…and that’s just the ones beginning with “A”.

Dishonesty
tight with money
uncaring

1. Being a dick.

At the end of the day, that's all that matters. Negative personality traits don't exist in a vacuum. Either your someone who knows your negatives, and is willing to work on them, or you're a dickhead.

Dishonesty - especially when they make it your fault I.e. I didn't tell you because I didn't want to upset you/knew you'd react badly etc.

Negativity - dont need to be ott positive but constantly expecting the worst/thinking the worst of others, and wallowing in it rather than taking action/accepting things/others as they are is soooo frustrating!

Stinginess - with time, money and effort

Meanness
Unkindness
Irresponsibility

One of those silent men that doesn’t read books or engage with the world and doesn’t say much so there’s not much there. Plus is not very bright. Been on dates with men like this omg no.

Right wing politics
Addictions
Lack of decent basic hygeine

Everything he says
Everything he does

Smoking, being unable to drive, and rudeness.

Meanness
Cruelty
No sense of humour

arrogance, meanness, addiction to drugs/drink/gambling, overspending on credit