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Top 3 personality traits you would avoid in a partner

107 replies

SophieLakeside · 30/05/2026 19:24

What are the top 3 personality traits that you don't want to see in a potential partner?

Mine are:-

  1. Dishonesty
  2. Arrogance
  3. Selfishness
OP posts:
DarkForces · 30/05/2026 21:50

Neediness
Meanness
Dullness

Preppyprepper · 30/05/2026 21:52

Laziness
Nastiness/violence
Immorality

OtterandaRock · 30/05/2026 21:58

Cruelty
Loudness
Prefers cats to dogs

thefourthbeatle · 30/05/2026 22:00

white trainers 👟
any trainers 🖕🏾
beard 🤢

hotflashes · 30/05/2026 22:05

Depression
moody
selfish

Never again

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 30/05/2026 22:08

3 isn't enough, I could write a whole page!

SisterMaryImmaculate · 30/05/2026 22:10

Self-absorption
Stinginess
Dishonesty

PauliesWalnuts · 30/05/2026 22:12

Avoidant
Mean with money/time/affection
Materialistic

Hamstersnorkel · 30/05/2026 22:23

Lying
Selfishness
Lack of contentment

mycarhasnoaircon · 30/05/2026 22:29

Jealousy
Stupidity
Incompetence at basic life skills. If he can't hold down a job, manage money, cook a meal, operate a washing machine, I certainly won't be doing it for him.

smallsilvercloud · 30/05/2026 22:45

emotional manipulation
Trying to make you jealous/make you insecure
Misogynistic

Wetcoatsandmudagain · 30/05/2026 22:55

Arrogance
lacking empathy
liar

Endoadnowarrior · 31/05/2026 00:07

LindorDoubleChoc · 30/05/2026 19:33

Depression
Anxiety
Meanness with money

Depression and anxiety are illnesses, not personality traits.
I hope you never need compassion.

BretonStripe · 31/05/2026 00:22

Poor listening skills
Lack of empathy
Tight with money

fetchacloth · 31/05/2026 00:25

Narcissim
Meanness
Lack of empathy.

All connected of course but awful to live with. Been there, done that.

SlightlyAjar · 31/05/2026 00:27

Stupidity, inarticulateness, incuriosity.

Blodyneighbour · 31/05/2026 04:05

Compulsive living
A pessimist
A constant complainer

Holidaymodeon · 31/05/2026 04:22

Dishonesty
drink / drug issues
emotional instability / unpredictability

I could probably make a bigger list tbh

Mightymighty · 31/05/2026 05:22

00K · 30/05/2026 19:45

Low mood and negative energy
dishonest
white trainers

White trainers? 🤣😂

Meadowfinch · 31/05/2026 06:04

Only 3.🤔 I have 7 which is probably why I'm single.

Dishonesty
Laziness
Lack of personal hygiene
Drinker/drug taker
Meanness
Aggression
Controlling personality

Blueeyedmale · 31/05/2026 06:52

Endoadnowarrior · 31/05/2026 00:07

Depression and anxiety are illnesses, not personality traits.
I hope you never need compassion.

Agree so many people saying depression and anxiety but one in 3 people will suffer with this at some point in their lives, it doesn't make them a bad person, many have it due to trauma, yes there are some who wallow in their own self pity but many who seek help for it and are capable of allowing it to not affect their relationships.

If this is a popular belief then I can see why the divorce rate is so high in this country.

MynameisnotJohn · 31/05/2026 06:55

Low impulse control
Self pity
Stupidity

yellowduckieswalking · 31/05/2026 06:57

dishonesty
inability to manage money
unkindness

onwardsUpwardsTopwards · 31/05/2026 07:35

Dishonesty;
Manipulation;
Lacking of empathy;
Selfishness.

LlynTegid · 31/05/2026 07:36

Lateness
Drug taking

Not sure what the third would be.

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