Partner called me his friend’s name after intimacy, should I worry?

[IAmNotHer]

So yesterday, post intimacy, my partner and I were cuddling and he called me by another woman's name.

Just "so happened " to be the name of the woman who is a close friend of his who I have wondered in the past if he has feelings for, which he has denied.

He was instantly appropriately apologetic. As well he should be.

This is bad, isn't it?

It’s difficult to find a way that it isn’t bad.
I’m sorry, OP.

How does he know this woman? How much time does he spend with her?
I am an over thinker and that would absolutely destroy me. Sorry OP xx

Sounds like my ex except he never called me her name during/ straight after sex but if he had that would have been the final straw .

I’ve called practically every ex boyfriend by the name of the boyfriend before them at some point. I’ve called my husband dad a couple of times! None of them were for any particular reason.

You should be very worried

Do these things really happen? 😭They always read like a comedy skit or a badly scripted soap opera.

If real, I'm sorry OP. I just struggle to believe this happens outside of romance novels.

LTB

Yes, I'd be worried enough that I'd end the relationship. It's not just that he used her name - in that we could call one of our children by the other's name if we were in a hurry - but that he's using it in that context.

Depends on the name and context of what he said if a one off. If she is called Hermoine and you are Beyonce then problematic I’d say. If Cathy and Catharine, less so

I think this very much depends on the comment eg there's a world of difference between 'do you want a coffee ' to ' I love being with you '. I'm not going to lie, I'm be unimpressed but could understand the former mistake. I think whilst women continue to bask in the aura of intimacy, men often jump ahead to what's next in their day and start thinking about very mundane, routine things. Maybe she was then on his mind in his forward thinking....... I can understand the upset. Did he explain why it happened??

Quite! I have called people by former cat's name before. I don't have sex with cats! I've called my boss 'dad' - they are both called Chris but only one is my dad!

For balance, I have never done this.

For balance - I have!

DH (former teacher) has lost count of the times a pupil has called him ‘Dad’. The kids are always hugely embarrassed but he laughs it off, doesn’t mind in the least. (and at least it’s not Grandad.)

Everyone’s called someone by the wrong name but the context here is you already have suspicions and the timing of when he said it .

what suspicions do you have regarding their friendship op ?

it’s either a total fuck up accident on his part and there’s nothing going on

or you’re suspicious for a good reason and he said it as there’s something going on / he fancies her

my ex in 2.5 never accidentally called me by anyone else’s name apart from the woman it turned out I was right about.

It very much did happen sadly. Certainly not in a romance novel.

I can't really remember exactly what he said, but it was something complimentary like I love you so much or I love being with you and then he said her name instead of mine.

He immediately realised what he had done and apologised profusely calling himself all kinds of names. The first thing he did when he woke up this morning was apologise too.

I have had niggles around this woman and this woman only because of how complimentary he has been about her..just something about the way he talks about her..bordering on if not mentionitis.

He knows how I feel about her.

We haven't discussed the incident yet, but we wil.

100% real feckin sadly for me 😞

Completely dissimilar names.

Sadly it was completely in the context of " I love being with you". No, he didn't really, though he did apologise profusely. He had seen her earlier that day though

Aye. Thats my thought, sadly.

Is she a new ‘friend’ ?

No. They were friends before he met me.

her name doesn’t start with a K does it? similarities to my ex . He also used to see his ‘friend’ on a Sunday morning.

Not with a K. He sees her random sunday mornings. Before her kids get up. So they have peace to talk.

Ah deffo not my ex then
phew
id tell you to run a mile 😂