Partner split from his ex well over a year ago; they had been together for around 9 years. She moved out of the area to a nearby town. We got together a few months after they split and so have been together for a year. It's a relationship as close to perfect as can be.
However, the ex is still everywhere and seemlingly doing what she can to stay in his life. We had 5 months of her still moving out her belongings. There was always another reason for her to text him about another item she'd left behind - inconsequential and easily replaceable things like a kitchen knife or a print of some artwork you can buy in every other shop. He'd already handed her more than her fair share of items and money to start over, but that's another story. He eventually blocked her number after setting a deadline for collection of anything else she wanted.
Then she began contacting his family over similar things - they blocked her.
Then she volunteered at an event she had previously shown no interest in, but knew he'd be there as a volunteer also. He had to cancel his shifts after learning she'd be there. Mutual friends who are also involved say she behaved appallingly, kept trying to contact him about why he wasn't there, and then fell out with the lot.
Then she had a family death and contacted my partner about that. He ignored it. She posted about the incident publicly shortly after - despite not posting anything else publicly, ever.
She still uses the pharmacy in the nearby shop. She moved back into the town we live in, but far enough out to have no reason to use this shop as there are many more such pharmacies near her place. She still hangs out in the nearby park, for hours at a time, from what neighbours tell us.
From what my partner told me, she did similar to her previous partner - constantly walking past his house and turning up in places he was going to be.
Now we had a call from the hospital, where she has given my partner as her next of kin to call. She has had the opportunity to change this for over a year, and we know she attended the hospital a few months back, so would have been asked for contact details then. He refused to attend, and asked them to delete him off the system. He gave them another number to call instead. We have since found out that the incident wasn't serious enough that she wouldn't have been asked about contact for next of kin.
The thing is, we can't get anything done over harassment, because it isn't outright. No one can tell her not to use the shop, or volunteer, or hang out near the house, because it all seems innocent enough. He, however, feels uneasy about just leaving his house. It's affecting his quality of life. We will move areas as soon as we can, but buying a new house is a long process.
What can we do in the meantime? Has anyone ever dealt with a situation where they weren't outright harassed, but just enough to affect their freedom?