Why is he entertaining her, is it harmless?

[Clarkeroyce]

My Man had this emotional web situation with this girl back a year ago. They ended up meeting once. He claims they never did anything. This was before I met him, by the way. I heard around that he would call her on blocked numbers every month since then.

I’ve found some texts in his phone which are questionable. About two months ago, they got back into contact. He was sending her messages telling her that she’s still in love with him, like a lot of teasing on his part. She texted him asking for advice regarding a man, and he went off. She’ll block him, then unblock him, and every time she does, he comes running to text her.

Him: “Don’t ever play on my phone like that.”

Him- don’t ever contact me about another man, so and so. He then blows her up like 5 times.

I confronted him about this. He said it was all jokes and how this is how they play. Yet from the texts, he came off very upset and bothered that she was dating other men.

Fast forward to now, I seen they got into an argument and he called her out of her name, vice versa. Then he calls her 5 times. Kept telling her that he knew she was going to unblock him. Then he sent her three voice memos telling her to admit that she misses him, and how he might miss her a little and care for her a little.

Then I seen that he called her at 3 a.m. She cussed him out and told him not to ever call her at that time.

He later on admitted that he only got love for her as a friend. Then I seen messages of him telling her he has feelings for a girl, that he’s pretty much in a relationship, and how his girl goes through his phone and is cool with it, which I’m not.

Him:
“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

Yet he just blew her phone up two days ago and called her at 3 a.m. last night.

It seems like she contacts him when she’s bored, and they get into these mini arguments, yet he blows her up and gets emotionally involved with it. I know it’s not good, yet I don’t want to end things over something that isn’t serious.

I mean, I wouldn’t find a 27-year-old man who texts like he’s a 14-year-old attractive, but maybe your standards are different? I don’t even know you, OP, but if I was your mum, I would be telling you that you’re better than this. Don’t stay around and do a pick-me dance for man who is mentally unwell (calling from blocked numbers?? Calling her at 3am?!? Threatening to show up at her work?!?!?) over someone else.

Yeah, wake up OP. Not sure why you needed to post on here. End whatever you have, run.

Another "completely genuine" thread.

I mean surely the bigger problem is he is a psycho. He sounds like a stalker.

I mean come on now op, why would you want a guy in your life like him? Do you not feel completely cringe that he's texting her that she 'obviously loves' him as if he's gods gift. And harassing her.

The best advice i ever heard was this - never marry someone you think would be a nightmare to divorce. This guy would be.

The same thing goes for relationships. Don't keep jerks in your life.

The bare minimum a partner should be is a nice human being. This guy isn't nice. He's not even a little bit pleasant.

He's a skeezy cheat who only loves himself. And that'll never change btw.

She's irrelevant. And so are you. HE only cares about his ego. And possibly his penis.

The guy only left her alone, because she said she wasn’t into him. He’ll be blowing up her phone again once he’s scraped his ego off the floor. And you’re all to happy to help with that one.

Stop playing the pick me dance. He has already picked her.

And it could be that he is one of those guys, who likes the chase, not the catch. And if you dump him and he starts chasing you, all that means is he only wants the chase, not to actually have a girlfriend.

Don’t walk away from this one. Run.

I think you’re trying to reassure yourself that he doesn’t like her and he’s all yours but there’s not trust in this dating thing you two have going on.

If he didn’t like her then he wouldn’t be constantly saying she still likes him etc. He is using her for the ego boost, it’s not her that’s getting it. She’s told him directly that she did like him but won’t continue to talk if he’s seeing someone, he’s the one that is playing with her feelings and telling her to chat but not to chat if that makes sense.

You two haven’t come exclusive even though you’ve spoken since November, is it you that’s holding back or him?

Personally, I would break it off with him, you clearly don’t trust him and are constantly questioning why he’s messaging her and what it means.

He is very childish.

Where’s your self esteem?

He’s just not that into you.

Do you mind me asking roughly where you’re located in the world?

Dawg yall need to dump his sorry ass lowkey fr

The Bronx by the sound of it.

I was going to say that but I didn't think it would go down well.

How come you have such access to his phone?
He’s told her he’s not in a relationship with anyone he’s just talking to someone, and that someone is you. So he’s not ‘my man’. He’s a guy who likes stringing people along. And dues he have feelings for her? Of course he does, in that this banter/flirting/whatever you may call it is gratifying. He may even have feelings for you, but nothing to base a solid relationship on. Get rid of this guy and date some one who isn’t playing around via his phone.

Sounds like some crap rappy thing ('I am not your homie, homie....').

Anyway he doesn't give a shit about either of you, you all need to grow up.

I thought considering it's a fake thread anything goes!

For all ma homies

Track Title: 3 A.M. Ghost (The "Homie" Trap)
(Intro)
Yeah...
Check the screen, 36 notifications deep
Meet the "Other Phone," the one you don't see
Only apps I allow? Nah, it’s the drama I keep
Listen.
(Verse 1)
It started with a web, a year before we met
An "emotional situation," yeah, he hasn't left it yet
Blocked numbers every month, like a ghost in the dark
Trying to relight a fire from a cold, dead spark.
Now the texts are looking questionable, the teasing is high
He’s claiming she’s in love with him—look him in the eye
But she brings up another man? He goes off the rails
The "just friends" narrative is starting to fail.
(Chorus)
He says, "Don’t play on my phone," then he calls five times
Saying "We just homies," but he’s crossing all the lines
3 A.M. on the clock, why you calling her name?
If I’m "cool" with the drama, why I’m feeling the pain?
It’s a cycle of the block and the unblock, too
He says he misses her—what’s he saying to you?
(Verse 2)
Voice memos in the air, "Admit you miss me a little"
While you’re stuck in the middle, playing second fiddle
He’s blowing up her line, cussed out at three
Then turns around and tells her, "My girl lets me be."
"She’s in my phone, she seen it all, she ain't even tripping"
But the truth is leaking out, and the loyalty is slipping.
Calling her out her name, then begging for the bond
He’s drowning in a puddle thinking it’s a pond.
(Bridge)
Is it harmless? Is it jokes? Is it just how they play?
Or is he emotionally involved in a dangerous way?
She’s bored and she’s texting, he’s hooked on the rush
Turning a "mini argument" into a full-blown crush.
(Outro)
Go ad-free, but the drama is loud
"My girl not tripping"—keep making him proud
But if he’s chasing a ghost while he’s holding your hand
It’s time to move the "Other Phone" off the nightstand.
(36... 3 A.M.... we just homies, right?)

Buy now.

Not a brain cell between them.

Calling someone out of their name apparently means calling someone something that isn't their name, or actually calling them insulting names.

Thank you, I had no idea.

OK so they got into a slanging match.

What on earth is the appeal of this guy?

Oh, thank you. So it could be anything from ‘Hi darling’ to ‘Oi, you cunt’?

Dump him unless you want to be in a love triangle with this woman he can't let go of.

What. The. Actual. Fuck.