Why is he entertaining her, is it harmless?

[Clarkeroyce]

My Man had this emotional web situation with this girl back a year ago. They ended up meeting once. He claims they never did anything. This was before I met him, by the way. I heard around that he would call her on blocked numbers every month since then.

I’ve found some texts in his phone which are questionable. About two months ago, they got back into contact. He was sending her messages telling her that she’s still in love with him, like a lot of teasing on his part. She texted him asking for advice regarding a man, and he went off. She’ll block him, then unblock him, and every time she does, he comes running to text her.

Him: “Don’t ever play on my phone like that.”

Him- don’t ever contact me about another man, so and so. He then blows her up like 5 times.

I confronted him about this. He said it was all jokes and how this is how they play. Yet from the texts, he came off very upset and bothered that she was dating other men.

Fast forward to now, I seen they got into an argument and he called her out of her name, vice versa. Then he calls her 5 times. Kept telling her that he knew she was going to unblock him. Then he sent her three voice memos telling her to admit that she misses him, and how he might miss her a little and care for her a little.

Then I seen that he called her at 3 a.m. She cussed him out and told him not to ever call her at that time.

He later on admitted that he only got love for her as a friend. Then I seen messages of him telling her he has feelings for a girl, that he’s pretty much in a relationship, and how his girl goes through his phone and is cool with it, which I’m not.

Him:
“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

Yet he just blew her phone up two days ago and called her at 3 a.m. last night.

It seems like she contacts him when she’s bored, and they get into these mini arguments, yet he blows her up and gets emotionally involved with it. I know it’s not good, yet I don’t want to end things over something that isn’t serious.

Run! You are the third wheel in this relationship. They have unresolved business with each other.

Isn’t it clear he is stringing you along while he tries to get into this girls knickers?

Wise up.

I would say it’s very clear that he much prefers the other girl to you.

for the love of god. I’d dump him for the sad nature of those messages alone. What a melt.

He clearly doesn’t have any feelings for you! He’s fucking her, and if he’s not he’s trying to. Up to you whether you are so desperate that you are willing to put up with him shagging around 🤷‍♀️

These were the last messages that were sent two days ago :..

Her-I thought you were joking lowkey lol, but yeah not like I miss you in a “romantic way”. I probably shouldn’t be texting you then tbh I didn’t think you were fr.

Him-Na I was serious I really talk to someone I’ve been since September but it’s getting serious
It’s okay lol
Him- I be chillin n she ain’t tripping either

Her-Ooo I didn’t know? Well I’ll let you get serious with that.. my bad

Him-I said you good
Ain’t no harm in being friends

Her-Umm I think so, I feel like if our personal texts were shown then it’s already weird you know. I’m not trying to be in a messy situation. Plus if I were in her shoes I wouldn’t want you being friends with me

Him-But I was being transparent as I should right? So I kept it real and let her know we talked but we still coo
Shes not worried it’s cool

Her-Hmm I really didn’t know tbh, I’ll help you out tho fs lol. I won’t text you anymore your in a relationship and I had no idea lol and I’m not that type of girl. Take care

Him-I’m not in a relationship lol, I just talk to someone.

Her -nah I’m good.

he never responded that was two days ago

I’m 62… it’s like reading a foreign language!
Homies?
Blowing up phones?.

im too old for this world😵‍💫

Sometimes you read stuff on here that makes you look at your life, your own character and personal failings, and think: "Self, we are not actually doing too badly".

“I’m not in a relationship lol, I just talk to someone.”

I hardly need say anything further.

is anyone else old enough to remember teenage magazine agony pages?
Dear agony aunt I’m going out with a boy at school but he keeps disappearing off with another girl at lunchtime. He says they’re just friends but she’s writing his name on her school books and he always wants to be her partner in chemistry and not me. Doe he like her more than me?
Agony aunt says I’m sorry but it does sound like he has feelings for her, forget about him and just have fun with your friends.
What agony aunt wants to reply Tell him to fuck right off

Roll on about 40 yrs this drivel is what we get instead

See if she's decided not to talk to him any more, that's self-respect.

Now you go do the same. Stop talking to him.

Ask yourself why are you posting here? Because after what you’ve shared nobody is going to come along to tell you that this guy is a keeper.

Get yourself away from this man.

Yo girl, he ain’t yo boo. Kick him to the curb, make him last years model. Word.

(How did I do?)

She actually sounds like she’s telling him that she’s not interested in talking to him if he’s in a relationship (good for her).
He sounds like a weapons grade arse.
OP you sound young, so please do yourself a favour and start your relationship life as you mean to go on, by not tolerating dick heads that don’t respect you and treat you as less than. There are other, better, men out there - don’t waste any more time on this clown.

Quite. This must be one of the funniest threads I've read in ages. REALLY hoping they're not in the UK - or my country is lost to me.

He never responded because she told him she wasn’t interested. He otoh is very interested in her. And he will likely try again with her in a month or so. He only told her he’s thinking about getting serious with you to try to make her jealous. But that didn’t work. And we know that because he then told her he’s just talking to you.

Walk away.

I'm glad that someone has clarified the international context; I read "my man" and immediately assumed this was about a butler.

OP: you could have a PhD in the time it's taking you to read this fool's messages to someone else. What's going to happen if you find out he's texting ten other women? Or twenty?

He’s desperate to be with her but she knows he’s a relentless creep and that she can do better.
He’s not entertaining her, she’s entertaining him. Possibly for a quick ego massage as he’s so obviously thirsting over her.
He’s not a keeper.

Have you two been seeing each other since September and not made it exclusive?

Honestly, he sounds immature! He loves the attention from her, he clearly messages when he’s bored and wants her to want him.

I feel sorry for her, it’s not fair for her personal messages to be read by anyone else and now posted publicly, especially when she hasn’t done anything wrong. He’s playing with your emotions and hers.

Not to be harsh, but is there any point in starting a relationship with him? You don’t trust him, he isn’t trust worthy anyway and it looks like he’ll reach out to her forever.

This is a wind up. Has to be, nobody is this daft. And talks like this over the age of 16.

What does this mean please?

He then blows her up like 5 times.

Him-I’m not in a relationship

Well... it doesn't look like he thinks he's your "man".

And if I were you he would 100% not be my man.
Dump this asshat asap.

@freerangethighs "I read "my man" and immediately assumed this was about a butler"
😂
This is absolutely brilliant

Surely this is a wind-up???

“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

Sounds like a 14 year pretending to be a plastic gangster.

Yall I’m 25 she’s 25 and he’s 27