Why is he entertaining her, is it harmless?

[Clarkeroyce]

My Man had this emotional web situation with this girl back a year ago. They ended up meeting once. He claims they never did anything. This was before I met him, by the way. I heard around that he would call her on blocked numbers every month since then.

I’ve found some texts in his phone which are questionable. About two months ago, they got back into contact. He was sending her messages telling her that she’s still in love with him, like a lot of teasing on his part. She texted him asking for advice regarding a man, and he went off. She’ll block him, then unblock him, and every time she does, he comes running to text her.

Him: “Don’t ever play on my phone like that.”

Him- don’t ever contact me about another man, so and so. He then blows her up like 5 times.

I confronted him about this. He said it was all jokes and how this is how they play. Yet from the texts, he came off very upset and bothered that she was dating other men.

Fast forward to now, I seen they got into an argument and he called her out of her name, vice versa. Then he calls her 5 times. Kept telling her that he knew she was going to unblock him. Then he sent her three voice memos telling her to admit that she misses him, and how he might miss her a little and care for her a little.

Then I seen that he called her at 3 a.m. She cussed him out and told him not to ever call her at that time.

He later on admitted that he only got love for her as a friend. Then I seen messages of him telling her he has feelings for a girl, that he’s pretty much in a relationship, and how his girl goes through his phone and is cool with it, which I’m not.

Him:
“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

Yet he just blew her phone up two days ago and called her at 3 a.m. last night.

It seems like she contacts him when she’s bored, and they get into these mini arguments, yet he blows her up and gets emotionally involved with it. I know it’s not good, yet I don’t want to end things over something that isn’t serious.

What's that got to do with the price of fish?

Just end it.

LTB

Are you 12?

Why are you even reading the messages from someone you aren't actually in a relationship with 😂

OP just walk away - the dramas not needed

She’s really beautiful, so I’m sure it is just an ego boost for her. We have been talking since November which I find crazy…. She unblocked him in January and he comes running back to her sending her texts telling her she loves and wants him how he knows she misses him cause she unblocked him.

I found texts between them in January she asked him advice regarding a guy she was dating, he was okay with her asking and even wanted her to ask him. After that he blew up on her sending text messages saying

Don’t ever play in my phone like that
asking me about different men etc. You’re trying to play in my face, how she’s a manipulator…!

she responded saying your not my man she never been that so why are you getting upset.

He then told her to stop playing with him. How he can really make her feel stupid if he wanted to etc the proceeds to ask her where she’s at so he can come see her? She declined…

from around town when they first started talking he took months and months to meet her apparently due to a loss in his family.. she ended up blocking him and he would send her voice mails on end. He even threatened to come up to her job. Since then they’ve had this weird back and forth. Seems like she can’t really do any better since she’s always unblocking him and then blocking him again.

And you know this but are still giving him the time of day. Why?

Are you both 12?

Girl… that man does not care about you. Stand up, straighten your crown, and leave him where he’s at. You deserve somebody who acts like they actually want you, not somebody got you out here looking foolish begging for the bare minimum. Have some self respect, babe. Walk away and let him miss what he lost.

does that sound about right girlfriends?

OP, she really can do better than him. And so can you.

Get rid of this immature joker and move on with your own life

Thank you, but he doesn’t care about her either it took him 2 months to meet her.

He doesn’t care about anyone but himself. He is not worth your time. Get rid of him and move on.

He does. More to the point, he doesn't have enough for you and he doesn't respect you one iota.

Respect yourself and ditch this waste of space and work on yourself too. This shouldn't even be a question to you.

It doesn't matter what people say here does it? You've asked question and don't want to hear the answers.

So you guys think he was telling her that stuff to make her jealous? Or because he didn’t want her to cross boundaries and think them talking would mean something else

OP, I don’t think you should split up, I think you should carry this on until about Christmas. But give us a weekly update please.

I mean he didn’t text her back after she said “nah I’m good”. … so maybe he was just trying to tell her he was seeing someone without hurting her. I don’t know I’m conflicted

His motivation doesn’t really matter.

What he is trying to do is get into her pants, with no regard for you.

What he should be doing is cultivating a respectful relationship with just one of you.

Thats why we are all saying, he is not worth your time or energy.

I would say he didn’t text her back because she quite clearly rejected him.

ETA: probably won’t stop him from blowing up her phone in three or four days time though.

Goodness knows, but it sounds terribly painful

Awww hun. Don’t be confabulated. I’m sure he loves u.

He is trying to fool her into thinking he is not serious about you, so he can play you both.

He has you two on a string.

Dump him.

Phoning/texting her

I agree.

Fucking hell 😂 really?