Why is he entertaining her, is it harmless?

[Clarkeroyce]

My Man had this emotional web situation with this girl back a year ago. They ended up meeting once. He claims they never did anything. This was before I met him, by the way. I heard around that he would call her on blocked numbers every month since then.

I’ve found some texts in his phone which are questionable. About two months ago, they got back into contact. He was sending her messages telling her that she’s still in love with him, like a lot of teasing on his part. She texted him asking for advice regarding a man, and he went off. She’ll block him, then unblock him, and every time she does, he comes running to text her.

Him: “Don’t ever play on my phone like that.”

Him- don’t ever contact me about another man, so and so. He then blows her up like 5 times.

I confronted him about this. He said it was all jokes and how this is how they play. Yet from the texts, he came off very upset and bothered that she was dating other men.

Fast forward to now, I seen they got into an argument and he called her out of her name, vice versa. Then he calls her 5 times. Kept telling her that he knew she was going to unblock him. Then he sent her three voice memos telling her to admit that she misses him, and how he might miss her a little and care for her a little.

Then I seen that he called her at 3 a.m. She cussed him out and told him not to ever call her at that time.

He later on admitted that he only got love for her as a friend. Then I seen messages of him telling her he has feelings for a girl, that he’s pretty much in a relationship, and how his girl goes through his phone and is cool with it, which I’m not.

Him:
“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

Yet he just blew her phone up two days ago and called her at 3 a.m. last night.

It seems like she contacts him when she’s bored, and they get into these mini arguments, yet he blows her up and gets emotionally involved with it. I know it’s not good, yet I don’t want to end things over something that isn’t serious.

Just block him yourself and move on OP. He’s quite obviously got some feelings for her, do you ring someone you don’t give a fuck about 5 times in a row or at 3am?

“Even though I liked your ass heavy asf”

Please… I can’t 😂😂😂

Is he a rapper?

Such a lot of typing by the OP. All the better to hook people, I presume?

I'll bite, and pretend this is real.

He's not your man.

He's not her man.

He's not a man.

Narcissistic triangulation.

You've wasted less than a year on this boy - don't waste a single day more stroking his already-overinflated ego.

Reflect on why you have so little self-esteem that you'd put up with his shite.

And what does "call her out of her name" even mean?

Are you all 12?

Yes. All my questions are linguistic. What does 'blow her up five times' mean?

I would end it purely on the basis of this cringe:

“We homies lol.”
“My girl not even tripping fr.”
“She be in my phone, she seen it all.”
“But you know I got love for you (her full name).”

This isn't AIBU, it's relationships. If you're not keen on a poster's use of language, you could just not bother posting rather than tearing them down for it.

What? How old are you all, this is ludicrous.

Well, it's not possible to actually know what the OP means in several cases. I mean does 'blow her up like five times' just mean that he phoned the other woman five times? Is to 'call someone out of their name' some kind of proof of intimacy?

Also, it matters whether the OP and her boyfriend are sixteen or in their thirties and in a serious relationship.

Good grief.

Turns out you could figure out what she meant.

I have no idea if that means what I suggested, though. That is my point. I appreciate the OP is, I assume, American, but she's not posting on a site where most people will be fluent in her particular idiolect.

You sound very young op so I’m going to spell it out. If this man even liked you, or had respect for you, he would not be doing this.

You need to drop the rope and leave them to each other. Find someone who is decent, who will treat you properly, not some grim dickhead who keeps you on the back burner while he’s flirting with other women.

You cannot be serious op? What would he have to do to make you understand that he has feelings for her - shag her in front of you?! Of course he has feelings for her, that’s why he texts her. What is more concerning though is why on earth you would have feelings for a bloke who stalks a woman? This is so weird. Walk away. Work on your self respect.

And this is what you think is your boyfriend?

hahahahahah who talks like this??? "Him-Even tho I liked your ass heavy asf"

How old are you lot? Sound like 14 year olds!

He's not your homie. lol.

Is this what watching Love Island is like?

If it was set in the bronx.

Love Island: "B*tch don't touch my weave or I'll cut you" edition.

Have you not heard of blowing up someone’s phone, it means to keep contacting them so they have loads of texts or calls, so yes. As for him calling her out of her name, it means he insulted her.

Yes she's who he wants to be with and you are just a filler until he gets back with her properly.
Ditch him and have a think about why you would put up with a man like this

You all sound like silly teenagers. He’s playing games. Get rid.