Telling boyfriend before abortion

[Grghf]

I screwed up the contraception. We've been together a year long distance (seeing each other twice a month). Supposed to be moving in together in 2 months time.
Ive made an appointment for a medical abortion but I want to tell him first. I just feel sad like somethings changed. I wonder if he will see me differently now. Im scared to get the abortion.

Agree. This is about OP's body. He has no say here. His say with regard to having future offspring ended when he decided to ejaculate.

OP if you’re seeing him today I would bring him up date, even if you don’t have a positive test use it to initiate a serious discussion about it.
He might be disappointed you aren’t pregnant, he might not be, if you are then maybe it’s the time to tell him how you feel.

I told him last night. He was really comforting and supportive and we had a serious chat. We are now just going to get on with our weekend and have a nice time together and then have another chat on Monday.

Thanks for the update OP, I’m pleased you have told him and he was supportive.

And you may not. I bled for a day, had zero regrets and no strong emotions about the entire event six years later. It was very much a quick in and out.

That’s good.

Hi OP,
just to counterbalance the casualness with which some posters experienced abortion (and that’s great for them!)
I had one almost two months ago, in embryo stage but after a few weeks of agonising decision making.
I feel it was the right decision but still think about it every day. It was a surgical but I bled lightly for over a month and still have brown spotting. It was an absolutely monumental thing to go through and there is no way I would have done it without telling my partner, even a recent partner.
I already have children and I suspect this is a big part of how sad it was for me. But I wouldn’t want to project as I know it can also be very hard for people who don’t have children already.
So I’m glad you’ve told your partner.
all the best

I guess I need to do this in steps. Tell him, then come home, and have a few days by myself before I go to the clinic. And look into the counselling they offer.

Yes, working out what you most want step by step is a good idea. ❤️