Partner says he hates fatherhood and I think this is the end

[FlutterByeBye1]

Partner and I have been together almost 10 years, we have 2 DC together, 4 & 10 months. They are a lot of work, as all small children are. DP is constantly saying he hates being a dad, even in front of DC, constantly moody and stroppy, snapping at our 4yo. Today was the last straw. This week our youngest has been in hospital for 5 days, I stayed with the baby, eldest stopped with grandparents, all came home in time for Easter Sunday, today DP told me everything was fine until we all came home. I know this is now the end of our relationship, I feel like I am constantly treading on eggshells and I don’t want that for our DC. Not sure why I’m posting, maybe for solidarity and practical steps moving forward. Feeling like this is really the end.

@FlutterByeBye1 wishing you and your children all the happiness in the world.
❤️

Never underestimate a spiteful man, especially one with money who can afford to move abroad.

I second the CMS claim application. Get that done now. He’s wicked.

he also said he would rather move abroad than give me a penny

Make sure you apply for child maintenance without delay - and remind him that this money isn’t for you, it’s for his children.

But he is also selfish and lazy when it comes to family life, and has made it very clear that he has no interest in the kids. He hated having to do anything with them when OP was doing most of the work, he isnt going to want to have them full time on his own, in another country and no time off from it.

I think the chances of him taking them with him are slim to none.

A note re CMS....when he works abroad is he employed by a UK company and paid in the UK? If so then CMS can apply a Deduction of Earnings order to his wages and it is taken by payroll and sent to them before he even sees it, whether he is physically in the UK or not.