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Does "girl" give you the ick

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LifeSurvior · 27/03/2026 00:07

Does anyone else get the absolute ick when their partner ( we are both late fifties) talks about women as girls.
My ick came tonight.
He came home from work and said his work colleague was on the dating apps and said "why are all girls such hard work"
I responded, what? You mean women surely, the bloke in question is Bob he is 59.
He responded, yes of course but the girl he took out on the date....
Absolute fucking ick.

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BauhausOfEliott · 27/03/2026 07:43

In the context you gave in your post, yes, it’s patronising and annoying. But when my mum (82) describes my friends as ‘such lovely girls’ I love it.

Evolutionarygoals · 27/03/2026 07:50

I think it does depend on context. I'd raise an eyebrow if my DH referred to grown women as girls, but he wouldn't as he also thinks that is creepy and patronising. I don't mind a self reference to a girls night in though. What really gives me the rage is being called a "good girl". DH tried it once, and only once. My dad occasionally says it and I bite my tongue because he doesn't mean to make me so cross, but inside I'm furious!

user1492757084 · 27/03/2026 07:57

You are over thinking it
.

Using the terms boys and girls for adults is not always disrespectful.
People often say boys' night out and girls'night out.

They are speaking casually, or in a playful way.

JustGiveMeReason · 27/03/2026 15:42

LifeSurvior · 27/03/2026 01:24

The cool girls have found this then 😬

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Thanks.

I mean, I don't think anyone who knows me would think of me as 'cool' but I'll take it.

But why ask a question if you are just going to try to insult people who hold a different opinion from you ?

ItsHelenaHandbasket · 27/03/2026 15:43

LifeSurvior · 27/03/2026 01:24

The cool girls have found this then 😬

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Why ask a question and then insult the people who respond just because they don't agree with you?

VoltaireMittyDream · 27/03/2026 15:46

JustAnotherWhinger · 27/03/2026 02:47

For me sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t. It depends who is saying it and the context.

DH’s granny (she’s 104) was telling me that she and her neighbour had a “girls night” the other night. The ‘big room’ (it’s a twin room) in the home is currently empty and the staff let them sleep in the two beds in it with a film on and some snacks. They had an absolute hoot. Apparently two of the other “girls” are doing it tomorrow night and MIL is hoping to have one more girls night before it gets filled. She told DD1 and I we should have a girls night as it was great. I didn’t find that bothered me at all, in fact it was quite endearing.

Twatty husband of one of the school governors announcing at the fete that 3 of the girls were going to man the tea stall absolutely did annoy me. As did him declaring the PTA “good girls” when they raised a phenomenal amount of money.

I hope I end up in a care home like this if I get to be 104!

Mistyglade · 27/03/2026 15:49

No, never even thought about it.

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