Ending things after two dates: WhatsApp message or phone call?

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Hi, grateful for advice please.
I have been on 2 dates with a man I met via OLD. I don't want to see him again, lots of reasons but mostly he reminds me of my brother and that puts me right off!! There are some other proper reasons too.
Is it okay to send a Whatsapp message at this stage?
Put reasons in or be more vague?

At what stage does someone deserve a phone call to end things?

Right now I wouldn't even say we were a couple, two dates is very little right?

Just block him. He'll figure it out.

If he or you havent arranged another date then you could just not text him or you could be decent and say thank you for the last two dates, I don't think we quite match , wishing you well. Or something along those lines.

Don’t just block him, that’s a horrible thing to do to someone.

I think it’s fine to WhatsApp him after two dates.

Don't do that. It is horrible to be on the end of that.
A whatsapp telling him thank you but I dont see this going any further, I wish you the best etc is perfectly fine.
You dont owe him a phone cal,l but no need to make him feel like shit and ghost him either.

Just message him and say thank you for nice dates but you’re not feeling it.

Dont ghost that’s just ignorant but equally you don’t owe him a conversation.

This. Ghosting / blocking people is petty and nasty, unless they've done something really bad

Definitely a WhatsApp message but don’t allow him to engage you beyond that, you don’t need you get into a length dialogue about it.

Don’t block, that’s just cruel. WhatsApp is fine. Say it was good to meet you but you’re not feeling a spark so wish him well. Always be decent. When you’re on the receiving end you’d want the other person to show you the same respect.

Agree with most pp. WhatsApp is fine at this stage, but blocking/ghosting is a dick move when he hasn't done anything to warrant it.

WhatsApp is fine, explain it’s been lovely meeting him but you’re not feeling a connection with him and wish him all the best in his future.
I’ve done exactly that before and it was well received and I had a nice response.

Message is fine.

A message is fine.

Message is fine, no deep explanation needed. It’s been nice (if it has!), but the connection isn’t there. If you want to you can soften with a ‘hope you get the job, cat feels better, you get to see Mount Everest, insert other topic. Take care/all the best. If he replies positively all good, if he asks why or try’s to engage further just ignore/block.

I think a txt is all thats needed. I wld prefer this even if I had dated along time. If its informing rather than a discussion what else is needed

Thanks everyone.
I really don't want to discuss anything with him, the two dates have been lovely but I do not want to see him again.
WhatsApp message it is then!

No that’s rude and mean

@didntlikeanyofthesuggestions the fact that your response is to block highlights that you are incredibly immature and selfish.

WhatsApp fine for two dates. I think probably at least 5 or 6 before you need to call!

Don't tell him it's because he reminds you of your brother. As that's really not his fault and would sound weird.
He doesn't need to know the reasons why. Just politely message saying you enjoyed meeting but feel you're not really well suited. And wish him the best. Then forget him.

@didntlikeanyofthesuggestionswhat? How rude.
You’ve had plenty of suggestions OP. Send the message then think no more if it.

I agree.

Just message him.

"Hi X, thanks for the dates. I've enjoyed your company but unfortunately I don't feel a connection so don't wish to pursue things further. Nice to have met you, OP x

WhatsApp.

Just to add I won't ghost anyone. I think it is unnecessarily cruel and there is no reason to here. He's a perfectly decent man and has done nothing wrong.
Thanks for the suggestions about what exactly to say too, i will try and word it so there isn't a reason apart from this is how I feel.

I'm a man, and I agree with your sentiments and most others on here - if he's a nice chap, just not Mr Right, a brief message saying that and wishing him all the best is the best thing to do.

Best of luck on the hunt!

Wait till he messages you about another date or whatever then say you don’t feel a connection but nice to have met you. I don’t think you need to message him first after 2 dates to tell him you don’t want to see him again!