Ending things after two dates: WhatsApp message or phone call?

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Hi, grateful for advice please.
I have been on 2 dates with a man I met via OLD. I don't want to see him again, lots of reasons but mostly he reminds me of my brother and that puts me right off!! There are some other proper reasons too.
Is it okay to send a Whatsapp message at this stage?
Put reasons in or be more vague?

At what stage does someone deserve a phone call to end things?

Right now I wouldn't even say we were a couple, two dates is very little right?

You only went on two bloody dates! A message is fine. You’re not ending a relationship, you’re just declining a third date.

He's mentioning meeting again next weekend so I want to be clear and head him off really.
I'm going to draft my message to him this evening and send it.

I think what I find a bit odd is that he's talking about keeping this date free for that event (to me) and we have literally had 2 dates. He's assuming it's a full on relationship at this stage.

I don't think saying he'll keep the date free is that odd, it means he's keeping the day clear for the date - I think that's rational.

But if as you say, he's not the one for you, a message is a decent way of ending things.

Brief and short. I always go for a variation of
"I had a nice time on our dates, but I'm just not feeling it. Hope you find someone that fits"
Usually the response is pleasant and no one is wasting any time.
You don't owe him a reason, just decency and respect.

This

WhatsApp definitely. Only need phone call for relationship

A whats app message is fine, but be prepared for him to act all ego & block you "i didn't like you either" 5 year olds tantrum. At which point blocking is fine too.

He's assuming it's a full on relationship at this stage.

That’s his problem, not yours. It still doesn’t mean you owe him any more than a polite ‘thanks but no thanks’ message.

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Don't just block, a simple whats app message is fine.

Pathetic

Just say it was nice to meet you but I can’t see this moving forward.

Yuck, please don't do that. Its humiliating and cold.

I would just not message him and if he messages asking for another date say no thanks, you're not feeling a romantic connection with him

I had this with one man I went on a date with, a few years ago…. I sent the sort of nice “not feeling it, best wishes” message and got a vituperative one back - “I know I’m a nice person, I’ll have no problems finding someone. You though, are fat and ugly and you’ll realise I was your best chance of any sort of a relationship, you’re the loser here.” Ouch 🤣

The irony of him saying he's a nice person in the same breath as calling a person fat and ugly 😂

This is awful advice. No one should be encouraging ghosting.

I would send a message if it was me - it’s only been two dates. Anything more than that, I’d say phone call

Anyone that does this is a cunt.

Message and tell him. Just blocking and ghosting is being a prick. Once you've told him civilly, you can block him.

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A WhatsApp I think would be perfectly fine after two dates and definitely better than blocking which is downright rude. Think the world would be a better place if we always remembered there is a real person at the other end of the phone/screen.