Ending things after two dates: WhatsApp message or phone call?

[PeeledOranges]

Hi, grateful for advice please.
I have been on 2 dates with a man I met via OLD. I don't want to see him again, lots of reasons but mostly he reminds me of my brother and that puts me right off!! There are some other proper reasons too.
Is it okay to send a Whatsapp message at this stage?
Put reasons in or be more vague?

At what stage does someone deserve a phone call to end things?

Right now I wouldn't even say we were a couple, two dates is very little right?

Why would she block him 🙄.
That’s just infantile & rude unless they gave you cause to do it .

Yeah WhatsApp message perfect .
No need of a call , it was just 2 dates 🤷🏻‍♀️.
Still polite to text though , no need to go into any detail .

WhatsApp and then block. They always take it badly and you get an ugly message back

Let it fizzle - just don’t reply to his next message. If you already have another date planned then a WhatsApp message is fine.

That is so rude, I wouldn't like to be treated like this. A text or whatsapp is fine at this stage along the lines "it was nice meeting you but for me its cheerio". Light and breezy.

That’s not cool.

You're all heart 🙄

I'd just text as it is honest while still giving him the opportunity to save face. I'd just go with something neutral and say you've really enjoyed getting to know him but you don't feel the connection you're looking for is there so you aren't going to pursue things further. Wish him all the best.

Oh my god! That’s so nasty!

Terrible advice

Treat someone how you would like to be treated. A polite message is all that's needed.

People who suggest blocking or ghosting really need to reflect on their behaviour. We all contribute to dating culture so if you want respectful dating be that person

No way would I phone. A DM is fine.

Step 1: block him on the dating app you used and any social media if you followed each other
step 2: polite what’s app to say you enjoyed your 2 dates but you aren’t feeling it so you’re going to part ways. No reason. No convoluted explanation. Keep it simple: you aren’t feeling it.
step 3. If he sends you any shite back you instantly block.
step 4: if he sends a nice message back send him a “take care” or something polite. Then block when he has read it (because he WILL come crawling back after a drink or two)

Yes I have done this one or two times!

I think WhatsApp is kinder, a phone call will ve awks

I got dumped over Whatsapp after 3 months of dating 😫

Tell us what happens

Happened to me after a 2 year relationship!

A phone call, be dignified. Sooner not later, don't lead him on to believe there is a future.

I sent the message and got an "okay" back.
And that was it.
I'm relieved and hate letting people down. But I'd never want to hurt anyone.
OLD is hard isn't it?

Oh well, a little break from it all will be a good thing.

Doesn’t matter HOW you tell him. But tell him! Keep it brief, he’s not interested in your justification.

Take it you are still on the market then!, how can the fellas resist eh!!

Well, sounds like he was indeed a decent chap, that's a measured response, short, to the point from him - job done and done well.

I agree. No need to block him @PeeledOranges Just WhatsApp him and tell him you don't feel it's going to go anywhere with him. If he keeps pestering and mithering and wanting to know why, THEN you can block him!

Sorry @PeeledOranges I see you have already done it, and he was OK with it! All the best. xx

WhatsApp. Hi x, I’ve had fun but can’t see this going further. All the best