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Ending things after two dates: WhatsApp message or phone call?

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PeeledOranges · 23/03/2026 16:18

Hi, grateful for advice please.
I have been on 2 dates with a man I met via OLD. I don't want to see him again, lots of reasons but mostly he reminds me of my brother and that puts me right off!! There are some other proper reasons too.
Is it okay to send a Whatsapp message at this stage?
Put reasons in or be more vague?

At what stage does someone deserve a phone call to end things?

Right now I wouldn't even say we were a couple, two dates is very little right?

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ThisSunnyBee · 24/03/2026 23:22

WhatsApp, phoning is so analogue

Bluestar1971 · 25/03/2026 06:11

Two dates WhatsApp message is fine

Empress13 · 25/03/2026 06:18

WhatsApp him but if he starts to try texting you being a pain then I’d block

oops just seen your update glad he was ok about it good luck with the next one!

NormasArse · 25/03/2026 06:20

abbey44 · 24/03/2026 12:46

I had this with one man I went on a date with, a few years ago…. I sent the sort of nice “not feeling it, best wishes” message and got a vituperative one back - “I know I’m a nice person, I’ll have no problems finding someone. You though, are fat and ugly and you’ll realise I was your best chance of any sort of a relationship, you’re the loser here.” Ouch 🤣

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So not the nice person he thinks he is!

ImogenBrocklehurst · 25/03/2026 13:39

Agree, don’t block, that’s just nasty unless he’s done something awful. Just a “good to meet you, but no spark between us. Good luck finding someone” will be a nice way to end it. Give him a day or two to respond if he wants to, then block if you feel like it. Definitely block if he is persistent, though.

lilkitten · 26/03/2026 11:53

WhatsApp message (definitely don't block or ghost! That just makes you feel like shit when people do that) but not necessarily phone call. I don't know, I'd say at least a few months in before you want to do it by phone or in person.

Empress13 · 26/03/2026 13:58

ImogenBrocklehurst · 25/03/2026 13:39

Agree, don’t block, that’s just nasty unless he’s done something awful. Just a “good to meet you, but no spark between us. Good luck finding someone” will be a nice way to end it. Give him a day or two to respond if he wants to, then block if you feel like it. Definitely block if he is persistent, though.

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Thatsthebottomline · 26/03/2026 14:03

Imagine what you would want if roles were reversed. You'd probably like a message that says "thanks but no thanks", something simple and direct.

ImogenBrocklehurst · 26/03/2026 14:43

Empress13 · 26/03/2026 13:58

OP has updated

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Yes, I realise that now

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