Would you be annoyed if your partner lied like this?

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So my partner is lazy
I do everything in our house
Washing ,cooking etc
He doesn’t even so much make a cup of tea.
I tell him all of the time he needs to pull his weight but falls on deaf ears.
Last night I told him again ,hoping for a change.
He said he would and this morning as we are out to the races today …he would make me breakfast in bed.
Woke up this morning,asked him to make me a cuppa and he said he couldn’t be bothered to do breakfast but he knows he’s lazy and he said “I’m sorry for being so lazy,I will give you £50 to treat yourself to a new top or something instead of making breakfast and to say sorry for how I’ve been lately.
So I said that’s fair enough
Got up ,made breakfast and said “oooh il see if I can find a nice top online for my girls night soon”
He replied “you would really take £50 off me for making breakfast ..wow…I was joking obviously”
”il make breakfast next weekend”

Would this bother you?
I feel stupid and a bit silly now

He sounds lovely…..not!! How old are you? This will massively piss you off once you get to perimenopause or have kids together, that’s when shit gets really hard.

He said he would make breakfast. He said he would treat you to a new top. Nothing materialised. What a great partner.

Why do you put up with this? If he does nothing at all then why are you making him cups of tea, doing his washing etc. He doesn’t see you as a partner, you are a housekeeper / servant with benefits!

Id be annoyed but youre being an absolute mug here. Stop doing his washing but dont tell him and he will realise when his undies have run out.
Dont make his dinner and when he asked what's for tea or where it is say its in the fridge.
Make yourself a cuppa and dont make him one.
Play him at him own game and see if he improves. He won't like it but say you cant be arsed just like him!!!

If there’s no kids, I’d be dumping him.

If this is really all you accept, are you surprised you are with such a loser?

Clearly you are choosing to be a skivvy to a lazy waster.

Don't inflict him on children at least, that would be a shameful thing to do.

I don’t understand why people are saying stop doing the washing, stop cooking, etc. Just stop the whole awful relationship!

Eww why do you put up with this shitty behaviour.

Well he’s an absolute twat isn’t he? But OP…you are allowing him to treat you badly…why do you think this is? Have a real hard think about your own boundaries and expectations, because right now, he’s laughing at you, and knows he can be a complete dick because you let him. This is so wrong!

And also, just to be clear…the weekend is still here, so why is he (falsely!!) promising to make you breakfast ‘next weekend’…why not tomorrow? I think you know why…because he’s hoping you’ll forget all about it and go back to being a pushover 🤷‍♀️

Get rid of this loser and regain your self respect.

He's not your partner. You are his multi-purpose domestic appliance.

Leave

Yes I would be massively bothered by everything you've said. Why are you still with him? Kick him out, leave. No no no no and no to that.

And you remain in a relationship with this neanderthal why?

You cannot seriously expect anyone to say this is ok.
Is that what you want?
Omg girl men huh? Hes soooo lazy lol. But what can u do. Just make yourself pretty and go out with your girls. Men lie all the time sure thats married life lols.

No. Nope. Hes a wanker. Id be annoyed at myself for tolerating a moment of this bs.
Normal decent men do not carry on with this.
Annoyed? Nah. Id just kick the cunt out.
Men like him are so fucking tiresome.
Stop tolerating it.

This will never get better .. only worse. Is this really the life you want, with a partner who cares so little about you.

Why have you chosen to be with / settled for a lazy man? You are silly to pick him and then complain about him.

Really, what's the point in living together if you don't have kids together.

This.

Read this post back to yourself and ask yourself if this was a friend what would you tell her? Why are you still with him? This man treats you like a maid and you’re going to allow this to continue?

I would have declined the £50 and ripped him a new one, made him go and make my breakfast as that is what he promised. He needs a reality check. You've shown him you'll put up with it if he teases a bit of cash. WTF is that about?!

^ This. Why are you even with this man?

Is this really the life you want? I can foresee you here, sometime in the future as one of those women on MN seething and hating men. Get out now.

Clearly you have continually allowed him to behave like this. He will never change.

He sounds repellent but you’ve clearly been putting up with his shit for a long time. He’s behaving like this because he can.

I am glad the messages on here are uniformly against this POS and I'm sad so many are blaming you for this situation. The fact that you're asking this at all just shows how much you have been gaslit and manipulated into accepting it. That's not your fault. I hope that you can leave him and improve your self esteem and standards in relationships, and learn to love yourself more, so that you never have to ask such a question again.

Why would he change?

He gets you running round after him and doesn't have to lift a finger. What's his incentive?

Sure, you're not happy, but he doesn't really give a shit about that, and he just has to make meaningless offers that he has no intention of following through with and you'll shut up again.