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Partner admits takes ecstasy on nights out

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SatelliteSpaceman · 06/03/2026 18:03

Pretty much as the title says , newish partner admits to taking ecstasy on nights out with their friends, obviously an illegal class A drug and leaves them shattered and low the next day.

reason enough to leave them?

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ChoosingMyOwnRandomUsername · 07/03/2026 18:12

what has age got to do with it?

Because drug use is pathetic, damaging, risky , unethical and antisocial in so many ways @RunMeOver . It's not a good choice, ever.

But very young people often don't make good choices...I think your brain doesn't even stop developing until 25, is it? There's a reason why teenagers push boundaries, experiment etc. It's kind of expected.

Past teens/twenties, you should really know better. To still be at that risky/experimental stage at 30+ is utterly pathetic and to me, indicates all kinds of things about either your life, values or character (and none of the things it indicates interest me).

justintimeforxmas · 07/03/2026 18:15

RunMeOver · 07/03/2026 17:31

I'm curious about the many reactions like this. To me taking ecstasy or any other drug is either OK or it isn't, based on appraising the individual's overall life with the drug in it. If they manage whatever job, family and other responsibilities they have well enough (as plenty of shock horror DRUG USERS! do), and they are reasonably balanced, interesting people for whom the drug doesn't dominate their life or personality, I don't see the problem. If not, then yeah it's a problem and I'd probably avoid being around them. But what has age got to do with it?

In this case it sounds like the OP only has limited time to spend with his partner, and much of that time is wasted by her being knocked out from the previous night's bender. Regardless of the cause, I'd probably move on because it's just not a satisfying use of social time.

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I think because everybody starts out coping with taking the drug …… until they aren’t. It doesn’t happen over night but you don’t know what it around the corner and taking drugs is like playing Russian roulette. Too many are arrogant thinking the problems only happen to other people.

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