Partner admits takes ecstasy on nights out

[SatelliteSpaceman]

Pretty much as the title says , newish partner admits to taking ecstasy on nights out with their friends, obviously an illegal class A drug and leaves them shattered and low the next day.

reason enough to leave them?

Once in a while still props up this shitty industry.
The OP should run a mile. A 50 yr old still dependent on drugs for a good time speaks volumes.

I know lots of people who work for border force who take drugs! I don't know any who would cease to be friends with someone because their boyfriend occasionally takes ecstacy 😂

For me, yes. I would find him rather pathetic.

It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks though, you have your own standards so stick to those.

For me it would be over. It’s a hard line for me. But everyone has different boundaries

Depends how old you are. 20s? No. My age currently (37) yes, I find it disgusting now.

No one admits it until they've quit.

Speaking from experience.

Both of us are 50 +

I would not carry on a new relationship like this. But I have a DP who ended up in an induced coma and close to death from very occasional use of MDMA so hindsight is a wonderful thing.

It's a hard no from me but everyone is different.

My bathroom currently stinks of weed, nothing to do with me so it's frustrating as I find it a horrible smell. My window is on air flow vent.

Just reading it made me frustrated, sorry about your bathroom.. Very few things make me immediately annoyed, but smelling someone's weed is one of them. I wish everyone indulging in that disgusting habit would do it where it wouldn't inconvenience those who hate it.

I would dump. It’s stupid, irresponsible behaviour

But being dependent on alcohol, which an awful
lot of people are in their 50s is socially ok! Go figure…

I’d find out how often and what plans are for stopping or slowing use. If any.

Fed up of this piss poor arguement.
Go figure.

That's for@Catisheavyonmylap
Using the alcohol arguement is weak and useless as that will never change.
Illegal drugs affect millions of lives I'd suggest you educate yourself.

Didn’t Professor Sir David Nutt say that MDMA was less harmful than alcohol?

I used to love a loved-up rave in my youth. At 50 I’d be too scared of having a heart attack or something.

I'd break up. I don't date people who use illegal drugs and her risks of adverse effects is higher given her age.

That said, it sounds like she's trying to recapture her youth and that's not not a good look on anyone. Given her recovery period is long and she's not fit to do anything, her drug use affects her entire weekend so you really can't do much or enjoy anything together due to her drug use during that timeframe.

Cocaine or weed.. yes without a second thought. Ecstasy.. no

Drug usage of any kind is enough of a reason to end a relationship.

She is prioritising raving and drug use over you

It’s completely up to you. Opinions differ around drugs. You have to figure out what yours is and set your boundary. It would be a no from me because my experience with drug takers has only been negative.

Been there done it in the 90s . However I would not get involved with anyone who tooke drugs .
They are full of crap now and who wants a man who is 50 plus wasting his money on drugs . Most people grew out that and have better interests .
Id not continue with this .

Its a completely personal decision. I think its a lovely fun thing a few times a year, but every weekend would be a no from me. That being said I dont drink alcohol and couldnt be someone who got drunk or even tipsy every weekend which i know loads of people do. So its very much about you, your lifestyle and your values.

Of course it is. The fact that people still cite Leah Betts as a famous example of a person who died from ecstasy shows how harmless MDMA is in comparison to alcohol.

She is a 'newish' partner whatever that means - she doesn't have to prioritise him over her friends and social life if she doesn't want to!