Suggested Porn

[ThatZingyBeaker]

I've been trying to spice up my sex life in the last few months.My partner has been willing and keen too after many years together.
The other day I suggested we watch some porn together.We did and he wasn't into it and said he went along with it just for me.
I feel really ashamed of myself for suggesting it and setting it all up.
If I'm honest it was OK at the beginning then I started thinking wtf am I doing ?
How I'm feeling inside at the moment has actually put me of any intimacy at the moment .

Are you hoping others will share their spicy sex stories?

Forget it then and move on.

How I'm feeling inside at the moment has actually put me of any intimacy at the moment

if your relationship was already on the decline before the suggestion of porn, you've probably killed it stone dead now!

all credit to your DP for saying it wasn't his thing. he may feel it had degraded your relationship.

you need to have a proper conversation about it. It sounds like your communication between you both is sadly lacking, which is a show stopper to a healthy relationship.

porn usage didn't fix anything, it just masked an underlying problem.

What are you actually asking? You tried something; it wasn’t for you so you don’t need to do it again. Why the angst? Move on.

Thanks for your advice.
It backfired on me ,I feel like I went too far .

We've been together 36 years ,sex life had become abit stale
We've had a conversation about it .
But I just feel shame about suggesting it .

Not at all

I think it was because into me it seems so hardcore.
Yes,I need to move on

No harm in trying it. Just have a conversation about what you both like, and go from there. How often do you have sex at the moment?

Sex life a bit dull? Sit and watch some trafficked women screwing for drug money .... that'll do it....

It’s fine for you to have moral / ethical objections to porn, but it’s not especially helpful to let that colour your response to the OP. You obviously feel she deserves to feel shit about herself just because she did something you disapprove of, and now you’re gleefully crowing about it.

It is highly unlikely that her relationship has been killed stone dead by one brief try at a sexual activity that millions of couples quite happily do. It is also highly unlikely that her husband feels watching a video of a couple of people getting it on one evening has ‘degraded their relationship’. If he didn’t fancy trying it he could have said no. The hyperbole here is absurd.

OP, it’s totally fine to want to liven up your sex life and you’ve got nothing to be ashamed of. You tried something as a couple and it wasn’t for you. That’s fine!

Sex and intimate conversations can get awkward sometimes. It's all part of the process of trying new stuff. The important thing is neither of you dwell too much on it and eventually you will see it as funny too maybe. If you want to spice up your sex life, how about you have a conversation with your husband- share fantasies, see what each of you would like to try, and start slow.

Try beducated website

Don't know why you even thought watching porn would be a good idea OP.
Watching women being abused and degraded with your partner to improve your relationship?
It sounds pretty sad.
You really need to communicate with each other to discuss where your relationship goes after this

Look, you tried something, it didn’t work. Don’t feel shame about it.
Are you able to have open conversations with your partner about what you each like?

What do you mean spice it up?

Thanks for your reply
We've been having alit of fun spicing things up and it's me who's out there and suggesting new things to Tey.
He said he'd give it ago as it's something I wanted to try.But he wasn't excited and said it was a distraction and just prefers things between just the two of us.
I suppose I'm from a generation where you just don't do things like that .I don't feel silly just abit grubby inside tbh

I chose ethical porn and it was my decision.

Twice a week and it's,great since I've spiced it up but NOT the porn.

If it was your partner that suggested it, this thread would go wild with LTB.

It was once ,go away .

I think op may want other peoples sex stories.

it can be a mix

Have an honest conversation about what you'd both like to introduce to your sex life. Suggest looking on Ann Summers website together to get some ideas maybe of what you'd both like to try out. The porn thing was tried, it didn't work and that's okay it's nothing to feel bad about. It's good he felt able to communicate that he didn't like that.

Does he watch porn in general?