Suggested Porn

[ThatZingyBeaker]

I've been trying to spice up my sex life in the last few months.My partner has been willing and keen too after many years together.
The other day I suggested we watch some porn together.We did and he wasn't into it and said he went along with it just for me.
I feel really ashamed of myself for suggesting it and setting it all up.
If I'm honest it was OK at the beginning then I started thinking wtf am I doing ?
How I'm feeling inside at the moment has actually put me of any intimacy at the moment .

Maybe he's just likes it solo?

Anyway, you've said it apparently isn't his thing, but after 36yrs he must've given you clues on what is his thing? I'd start there.

Don't feel shame. Thats the best thing about marriage especially one as long as yours. Its a safe place to try things like that. To talk through kinks that you both may or may not share.

The trick is to talk though. Dont just wallow and wonder if your partner didn't enjoy it or if they judge. Talk about it and figure it out. It may be something you can laugh about together. It may be something they didn't enjoy and talking about it will help understand why and you never know, they may have suggestions too.

I suggested something a while back after my wife asked me if there was anything I'd like to try that we never did. It didn't happen straight away which was fine. Then she one night said let's try that thing (I am not going into detail so please dont ask). It felt like we both enjoyed it but after it did feel a bit off. I started to worry too that perhaps she didnt and was now either looking at me differently or didnt ever want to do that again. I was wrong. I'd invented scenarios in my own head. A while later she initiated and actually took it a step further and said how much she enjoyed it and that it had surprised her.

So now we talk about things and not just say its a safe place to discuss but fully believe and trust it is.

He doesn't have a preference foe porn.Hes said before he doesn't get what all the fuss is about .He's also said he likes it just one to one.Even pillowtalk ,he didn't like it when I mentioned a third party ,so I don't anymore.

That's it.I feel in my head he might be looking at me differently and I feel abit grubby tbh.But that's in my head and I need to talk to him but at the moment I keep feeling very off with my suggestion and what we watched.
Thanks for your advice.

What?????? My comments weren't negative at all. In fact they were supportive of OP. Think you might need glasses!!

But I wasn't being negative! I was in support of you.!?