Suggested Porn

[ThatZingyBeaker]

I've been trying to spice up my sex life in the last few months.My partner has been willing and keen too after many years together.
The other day I suggested we watch some porn together.We did and he wasn't into it and said he went along with it just for me.
I feel really ashamed of myself for suggesting it and setting it all up.
If I'm honest it was OK at the beginning then I started thinking wtf am I doing ?
How I'm feeling inside at the moment has actually put me of any intimacy at the moment .

Ethical porn? I've heard it all now!

Sex life a bit dull? Sit and watch some trafficked women screwing for drug money .... that'll do it...

100%

the chances of porn being "ethical". is somewhere between zilch and bugger all. All it is, is porn sold to people like you to feel better about it!

Yes we do talk openly .

What a bizarre comment

🤣🤣🤣. Wow!

You really think ALL women who act in oorn do it for drug money?
Don't be so naive ,alot dobit because they love it ,get real

It was always a stupid theory. Try affairs

so how do you explain the companies that are run by women for women etc ?

What a ridiculous comment

eg nina hartley

Don't know why you're getting such a hard time on here. You tried something and didn't work. Maybe suggest some toys or sexy board games or dice? At least you've tried something rather than just leaving it and let your relationship wain.

God forbid in 2026, a woman can openly enjoy sex, be confident in their own body AND make money from it!!

ignore the trolls

You really think ALL women who act in oorn do it for drug money?

You have no way of knowing which women are being abused. Do you even care?

Why go on a thread which clearly tells you what the subject is, when you have only negative things to say about the subject?

If you have such strong negative opinions on porn why have you come on a thread which tells you it’s about porn in the heading?

Exactly and thanks
It was good but predictable,so I had a chat and I ordered some toys and we're having a,great time .But it was just the feeling I felt suggesting the porn and it really fell flat .I'm not young so to be so open was a big deal for me about sex and being out there with it .

Some people are being so unnecessarily extremely cruel. I'm presuming you didn't go on the dark Web and find videos of children being abused or women tortured. This idea on mumnset that all women in porn are trafficked abused druggies is absurd. Porn has become very open, there are loads of pornstars that do interviews and have social media dedicated to talking about their work (obviously it brings in more viewers). To view all female pornstars like this is actually very antifeminist, these women feel they have power and choice and are proud of themselves and you're sat dragging them down telling them they're victims. Power to them, if they can earn a tidy sum off men wanting to to see them naked or having sex then good for them. I know no one would pay a penny for my body!

You watched two people have sex. It's not hard-core or shameful. It didn't work for you. So what? Try something else. Is he on board with the spicing up? As if not he could be feeling pressured and you rejected and ashamed. You could step back and let him discuss some ideas or sit with a drink and talk about fantasies

So she can berate a stranger on the Internet who is already feeling shit about themself so she can feel a little less shit about her own self. Obviously.

Listen you don’t stop having sexual needs because you’re over 30 do don’t have to explain yourself!!

one thing I will say is porn can be very intimidating for both men and women and it’s very performative do don’t beat yourself up about it xx

100% agree with you
Oh yes he's been very onboard with sex toys etc but he likes it just us two no porn.
You're right ,I suggest3d it ,it gell flat and I don't need to beat myself up about it.
Couldn't give a,toss about the naive trolls .

Sex isn’t just about procreation anymore, a chore or something dirty.

Not every woman was to be in missionary position, in a bed at the same day and time every week anymore

Exactky !
None of my friends and I ever discuss sex .
I'm enjoying feeling liberated now the kids have left home and discovering myself sexually .

And good for you!!

have you thought about filming yourselves? Not a full on DIY/home made thing?

get learning your angles and send that cheeky pic when he least expects it!!

ultimately you need to get to a place where if it’s just not working for either of you, you can laugh about it together xx

Already done that x

Good for you! I don't know if you still work but DP and I love sending eachother cheeky photos. Our sex life is a fighting battle atm with young kids and we found sexting eachother even from the same room is so much fun and really connected us. We kinda do it how we did when we were new, before we lived together and had kids, not like we're different people but like we've just started dating and don't live together, like we're waiting till we see eachother at the weekend to be able to have sex.

Go on girl!! 🎉🎉🎉

di you know there’s a moulding kit so you can make a vibrator from his ACTUAL penis?

I hate the underwear thing. It’s a waste of money and goes straight on the floor! lol.

do you have a friend that would maybe go to a burlesque class with you? I’d right be up for being that friend who’d go with you! Lol

boudior shoot? On your own or as a couple?

this is fully my type of convo! lol