How do others cope when power balance exists in your relationship? Im educated but not in a high paying job. Im from a family with little money and had a basic upbringing.
DP is the opposite and Is from a family with money. He has hundreds of thousands in savings and I get by but have debt from my car loan etc. He pays the rent and I pay the bills. The rent is more expensive but for context, his hourly wage is 4x what mine is. I work a lot more hours than him. Yet he refuses to help with anything in the house.
The issue is that he is very belittling. I literally can not ask him to help with anything im the house. If I do, he reminds me that he pays the rent. I am constantly told 'it's not your house' or 'i have more qualifications than you. I did not get into a relationship with someone 18 years younger for you to tell me what to do'. Today I am wfh at my desk in the bedroom. Each day he kicks me out of there so he can do 1 hour of work. Which means packing up all my things and then going back an hour later. He could work anywhere but refuses, stating 'it is my house. You go and get your own house'. He has this overwhelming power over me and I feel like im drowning in life. I am constantly on eggshells and I literally jump and get palpitations everytime he enters a room. I am constantly being put in my place and reminded I am lesser than him. He will spend his day in bed and refuses to help on the basis he has a better job than me.