Prepared to get flamed for being shallow but here goes. I met my partner just over a year ago now. When we were dating he was into fitness and the gym, it was something I found attractive. I like a man who looks after himself and is a proactive partner.
Looking back I think he love bombed me a bit was telling me he loved me within two months and it was a case of me feeling flattered and feeling desired ( single parent dating again after long time) Anyway to begin with their was a lot of chemistry but also mixed feelings. Within 3/4 of dating he was travelling a lot and put on a lot of weight it was quite startling to be honest as he went from slim to over weight and then he just hasn’t gone to gym again and got bigger since. I brought it up to him and he took it on board but I feel he thinks it’s not important anymore now we’re past the dating stage. That’s what it feels like. He will make this baby voice after I’ve made a meal and go your boy is still hungry and rubs his belly and then proceeds to eat what I would of had for lunch the next day.
I think he’s handsome but he went from this image of fitness guy to sorry I ate a whole load of bread out your freezer and all your kids snacks in the night. An I just finding it repulsive. When we have sex his belly now gets on the way and I hate myself for not being able to see past this. He is a good guy but I think he has a binging disorder.
When we met he would batch cook healthy meals now every night he shows me pics of takeaways he’s having. I think it’s more than the food so for example being a single parent we meet when my kids aren’t with me and often I have things I need to do. He will be like come on just cuddle me and then sleep for the day and I’m just finding it all a turn off and need to vent.
He’s met my family and friends everyone loves him. He treats me better than other relationships I’ve been in. He doesn’t have kids himself. Part of me thinks I’m in my 30s single parent with two kids who am
I to judge.
Is it worth working on my outlook in life and trying to shift how I feel or do I need to move on. God what do I even say to end it if I do?
I seem to flip between the two and I know deep down it’s not fair on him. My ex was abusive but I truly fancied him and I just don’t feel that way about my current partner but also isn’t it more important to have a healthy relationship and someone who treats you well?
Someone talk some sense into me I feel
its got out of control we’re about to spend Christmas together.