Would you sleep with a 23 year old?

[aliciainwonderlands]

I have great chemistry with him. He’s so bloody attractive. Masculine yet calm within it. Not a show off. But naturally a real ‘I’ve got it handled’ type.

I am 28 and it feels a bit… wrong? I don’t know. I just feel like I’m taking advantage

We are very flirtatious and I see him saying yes if I asked. When we talk, I feel like I’m 16 again. So much banter and easy back and forth.

I would love to get to know him more but just sex is the most sensible thing here. Our life stages are too different to become invested or let myself imagine he’d want me as a long term parent. I am very attractive. But that’s all. My life is a bloody mess but I’ve made the best of it and have calm and clarity now I am separated from an emotionally manipulative and boring arse.

I am newly divorced. Got married at 20. 2 children. Been through awful bereavements etc. Life experience very old for my own years, let alone a 23 year old to have much in common with me genuinely

He lives with his mum still. Doesn’t turn me off - not in this economy! But he doesn’t have any real world experience really. He has lived a life a 23 year old in 2025 should live. Life has yet to be unkind to him or throw any major curveballs that generally comes with age, marriage, kids, child loss etc

Please someone tell me it’s fine?

You’re 28 so I would!

As I am 45 I would decline

I don’t think the age gap is the issue, the questions to ask are: 1. What are you looking to get out of this? 2. How do you see this ideally ending? 3. Are you likely to get emotionally attached?

Haha - the last time I slept with a 23 year old when I was 28, I ended up marrying him!
We’re now 41 and 46 and still going.

I used to have a rule about not dating anyone younger than my younger brother but my mum said “just see how it goes, he might be the biggest surprise of your life!”

So really, I blame her…

Well, I wouldn’t, no! 23 is younger than my son, and I was in my 30s when I had him! But I don’t see a problem with a 28 year old and a 23 year old. I think the issue, if there is one, is about life experiences as you have been married and have children. But you could just as well meet a guy who’s 28 and in the same situation as the 23 year old.

Have some fun, it sounds like you deserve it.

It's only 5 years! Ok, v different life stages but there's nothing wrong with this at all. My dd works with a lady who is my age (early 50s) who's dating a 21 yr old who went to school with my dd and is a good 5 years younger than her youngest child. Many eyebrows are being raised and if I was his mum I'd be appalled, but this really sounds like a just enjoy yourselves and try not to look ahead too quickly scenario!

Do you think that a 28yo would hesitate to bone a 23yo woman? Would you judge him for doing so?

The age gap is nothing - the life stage is massive though. If you do go for it then keep your wee heart safely locked up.

Definitely. Some men are very mature at that age, others aren't. So guard your feelings, but its well into adulthood. I had 2 DC by that age and my DH is 5 years older so the same gap.

Absolutely go for it!

The age gap is fine. Your life stages indicate it would be best that you are both on the same page that this is a casual fling and not the start of a potential lifetime relationship before proceeding.

I wish my mother was still alive i would live with her forever. As long as he could provide, staying with mum isnt a problem in early stages. But all the best i hope it works out.

Omg you’re only 5 years older: what’s the issue ?

Would I, no as I’m 47, but you are only 28, so why not?

My husband was 23 and I was 27 when we met, also at different life stages but it worked. We have been very happily married for 15 years now.

5 years is nothing OP. After all no one would bat an eyelid if it were the man who was 28 and the woman 23. He sounds lovely but make sure you know what you want from this, if it's just fwb clarify that and make sure you are on the same page. Of course there's the risk you may fall for him so be aware it that too. Otherwise have fun, it sounds like you deserve it!

And absolutely do not get pregnant.

You know nothing about him. Maybe he had life experiences growing up that you've not and has dealt with more than you in life.

I’m 68 and was wondering if they were free on Friday.

In your shoes yes.

If I was 28 then yes! At 48 a definite no.

I was 30 he was 22, Everyone said it wouldnt last. We've been together nearly 2 decades, married for a decade, have our own buisness and he's the best step dad to my children. Go for it. I did and it was the best thing to happen to me.

You’re basically the same age!! I’m 47 and having a fling with a 29 year old at the moment ! He’s fit, funny, generous, respectful and an amazing lay! Go for it - have fun!!

Yes. What are you waiting for?

Well "I" would, if I wanted to, (and Im a lot older than you) but a couple REALLY important points to keep in mind
. The age gap is not significant, whatever your life experiences, noone from outside would bat an eyelid
. Be honest with him. Tell him what you want from him. Don't dress it up, or exagerate. Even if its a simple "I don't know".
.You have 2 children, leave them out of it completely. I'm actually not completely adverse to "hey little Johnny, meet my friend Mike", and keep it as platonic friends if/ when they are around. Your children don't need to know about what you get up to (even when they are adults 🤷‍♀️).
.You've been through a lot, keep your guard up for a while. The first heartbreak after a serious break is often the hardest. Worse than the divorce.
. We only get one shot at life. Better to regret the mistakes we made, than the chances we missed