Would you sleep with a 23 year old?

[aliciainwonderlands]

I have great chemistry with him. He’s so bloody attractive. Masculine yet calm within it. Not a show off. But naturally a real ‘I’ve got it handled’ type.

I am 28 and it feels a bit… wrong? I don’t know. I just feel like I’m taking advantage

We are very flirtatious and I see him saying yes if I asked. When we talk, I feel like I’m 16 again. So much banter and easy back and forth.

I would love to get to know him more but just sex is the most sensible thing here. Our life stages are too different to become invested or let myself imagine he’d want me as a long term parent. I am very attractive. But that’s all. My life is a bloody mess but I’ve made the best of it and have calm and clarity now I am separated from an emotionally manipulative and boring arse.

I am newly divorced. Got married at 20. 2 children. Been through awful bereavements etc. Life experience very old for my own years, let alone a 23 year old to have much in common with me genuinely

He lives with his mum still. Doesn’t turn me off - not in this economy! But he doesn’t have any real world experience really. He has lived a life a 23 year old in 2025 should live. Life has yet to be unkind to him or throw any major curveballs that generally comes with age, marriage, kids, child loss etc

Please someone tell me it’s fine?

That age difference yeah why not!

go for it!! Get nailed!! And happy shagging

The way you are talking you would think you were 50 or 60 not bloody 28! Go for it.

When I was newly divorced at 25 I slept with a 19 year old. We were FWB before it was a thing and had em, good energy....

Yes mate!!!

Well I wouldn't as they're younger than my kids!

But when I was 28 & getting divorced I had sex with who I wanted & some may have been a few years younger than me.

I married my husband when he was 20 & I was 26. We have been married 18 years & have 2 kids together! Age ain’t nothing but a number lol 😉

My husband turned 26 a few weeks after we started dating, I was 33, we’ve been married 21 years, have a 20 year old, looking forward to many more years together, we’re very happy. Don’t over think it!

Yes that's absolutely fine get yours

I wouldn’t but I’m 54. Go for it.

5 years is nothing.

The concern I would have is…newly divorced with 2 littles.

Are you emotionally ready for this, and for it to just “be fun”? Does he know it is “just fun”? Are you able and ready to keep all this quiet from the kids etc?

I was all ready to say yuck no, my child is older than that, but then I saw you were 28 and now I’m wondering why you think that’s a big age gap?

Go for it, as long as you accept it for what it is. A fun, casual relationship - nothing wrong with those as long as everyone is on the same page.

At 28, yes! At my age? Christ no 🤣 I have clothes older than him 🤣

Would I sleep with a 23 year old? No, because I'm a married 46 year old although there is a 28 year old at work who is HOT.

Should you give the guy a chance? Yes, absolutely.

I wouldn't because I'm 41 and married, you're 28! A 5 year age gap is nothing.

It’s only 5 years! I met my exh when I was 22 and he was 28 and no one batted an eyelid!

If I was 28 and single, yes! But I’m 45 and married, so no…

im ten years older than my partner. Two kids down the line it’s honestly fine

I thought you were going to say you were 50 or something 🤣 It’s fine!

It’s a different perspective for me because being American, you have to be 21 to drink in bars. So it’s always weird to me when someone who is 22+ wants to date someone who is 19 or 20 because it’s just such a difference in what you can do on nights out with your friends. So to me, once both partners are older than 21 it’s whatever.

I don’t even think getting in a relationship with him or having a future together would be odd. If you were 22 and he was 17, absolutely, but you’re not. 23 isn’t a baby and you’re in your 20s too. My son is 18 and of course I don’t know how it would feel until it actually happened, but if he were in a similar situation at 23 I think I’d be fine with it, kids and all.

It's only a five year age gap and he's a proper grown adult. It's absolutely fine. The only thing that might be an issue if it develops into a full blown relationship is that you might be in more of a hurry to settle down and have babies than he is, due to the age gap. But don't worry about that at the moment.

He's literally the same age as you.

At 28 I had been in a 3 year relationship with someone who was by then 24. It went on way longer than it should have and our different stages told in the end but the first year was a lot of fun. Just keep your wits about you to know if and when to walk away.

I thought you were going to say you were about 45-50 or something!

You're only 5 years older than him!

I’m 20 years older than you. And yes I would if the opportunity arose!!!!!

I was sleeping with a 23 year old when I was 33 - actually, I was married to him!