Would you sleep with a 23 year old?

[aliciainwonderlands]

I have great chemistry with him. He’s so bloody attractive. Masculine yet calm within it. Not a show off. But naturally a real ‘I’ve got it handled’ type.

I am 28 and it feels a bit… wrong? I don’t know. I just feel like I’m taking advantage

We are very flirtatious and I see him saying yes if I asked. When we talk, I feel like I’m 16 again. So much banter and easy back and forth.

I would love to get to know him more but just sex is the most sensible thing here. Our life stages are too different to become invested or let myself imagine he’d want me as a long term parent. I am very attractive. But that’s all. My life is a bloody mess but I’ve made the best of it and have calm and clarity now I am separated from an emotionally manipulative and boring arse.

I am newly divorced. Got married at 20. 2 children. Been through awful bereavements etc. Life experience very old for my own years, let alone a 23 year old to have much in common with me genuinely

He lives with his mum still. Doesn’t turn me off - not in this economy! But he doesn’t have any real world experience really. He has lived a life a 23 year old in 2025 should live. Life has yet to be unkind to him or throw any major curveballs that generally comes with age, marriage, kids, child loss etc

Please someone tell me it’s fine?

I’m 58, so if they’re game, I am!

If I were 28 and wanted to I would.

@Wholetthatgoatin ,oh well then, yeah me too.

Younger than my children? God, no!

I'm the same age as you and it wouldn't even cross my mind that it was an issue. I also dated a 28 year old at 23 and didn't think anything of it

Well I wouldn’t but I’m 52 😂 if I was 28 I would though

Thank you! Reassuring last couple of replies

Interesting that quite a few posters are against it as on paper it isn’t too bad I don’t think? 23 and 28

@aliciainwonderlands , if you were aman, would you be asking?

I had a fling with someone 11 years younger than me but I was 42 at the time.

Your 28 only 5 years older what if it was the other way round would it bother you if he was older?

I sleep with one every night.

You're only 28 too! That's barely an age gap worth considering. Have some fun!

OP, for goodness sake, it’s time to invite him to the ceremony of the removal of the knickers!!!

Two more words: “Enjoy” and “condom”.

Man's perspective...

I started a relationship with a 31 year old woman when I was 25. We were together 8.5 years. The age gap was inconsequential and it was mostly great. If the sexes were reversed it wouldn't even be a conversation!

I'm 50 so I wouldn't but sheesh you're just a few years older than him

Hm.... Would I sleep with a wonderful beautiful fun interested single guy half my age?
What a delightful conundrum...
You're not sneaking around? You're single, he's single, he knows your age or close enough to the actual number, he's not hiding you from his friends and family? Just do it. Enjoy it for as long as it lasts!! Not all relationships last forever, that doesn't mean we can't get enjoyment out of our life as long as we both go into it with our eyes open.

Edited because, didn't realize that you're only 28 and he's 23. That's only 5 years! Oh hell, this isn't even a problem at all. No no no. Wise of you to ask for advice but, seriously? Just do it

Im 41, my partner is 26...weve been together a year and are incredibly happy. We had early conversations about children/marriage etc to make sure it all aligns. One of us is an old soul one of us a young soul and we balance out perfectly. Age is just a number. If you dont try you'll never know

I wouldn't but I'm not anywhere near 28.

In your situation, I might.

Just do it. It could be great and if it turns long term the different between 58 and 53 isn't massive, nor 78 and 73 Even 98 and 93 isn't an insurmountable void. Especially as women tend to age better and live longer than men.

Just do it. It could be great and if it turns long term the different between 58 and 53 isn't massive, nor 78 and 73 Even 98 and 93 isn't an insurmountable void. Especially as women tend to age better and live longer than men.

I was 28 and Dh was 21 when we met. 🫣 Happy 18 years later, it obviously worked out fine, but in retrospect, his family must have been like 😱. He still lived in his uni house share and I used to have to shove into a single bed to stay over when we visited his family. 😂

I say crack on! I am 44 and dating a 57 year old… most fun have had in ages 🙈

Of course it's fine

Sounds like you could do with some fun -

Although you are close in age, you are at different life stages, so yeah, best to approach it as a fun fling -

The age gap wouldn't bother me at all but the newly divorced mum of 2 part would give me pasuse. You are absolutely entitled to a bit of fun but you need to be sure he is clear that is all you are offering, and be sure yourself that getting involved wouldnt distract or interfere with you getting yourself and the children back on track after all the upheavel

What a silly post. There’s a 5 year age difference fgs. Like others, I was expecting you to say you were in your 50s.

Of course I would if I was 28!

Non consensual experiences very much aside, I don't regret the people I've shagged. But I do regret passing up a couple of offers. Life is for living!

And you never know what he might bring to your life either. Don't necessarily write him off due to different experiences so far. People are more than just the sum total of their relationships to date.

Of course! It’s just 5 years difference. Have fun!! When I was your age I did something similar with a 6 years younger! Good old days 😂 And my now 10 year husband is 4 years younger. We met when I was 29 and he was 25.

You are both in your 20s… and only 5 year difference - there is no issue what so ever!

Your post though asked - ‘Would you…’ - and people answer for themselves… I would not as I could have a 23yo child. But someone 5, or even 10years younger - why not….