Did your parents sleep separately?

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Without giving context or a reason why I’m considering this, please can people tell me if your parents slept in separate rooms when you were growing up? What were the reasons why and do you feel that impacted you in any way? Like did it skew your view of relationships or anything like that? Also are your parents still together? TIA

My parents slept in the same bed. Divorced when I was about 18

My parents are in their 70s, have been married since 1972 and they still sleep in the same bed.

My parents slept separately for over 40 years, dad was physically disabled and mum later developed rheumatoid arthritis. She made a very big deal of sleeping in a seperate bedroom but always said it was because he snored so loudly, which he did.

My parents slept in the same bed and in their 60s still do now, even though my mum has rubbish sleep because of my dads snoring and lashing out in his sleep she thinks separate beds aren’t normal in a relationship.
Me and my husband haven’t shared a bed for 9 years due to his snoring, it was massively affecting my sleep and mood and if I had continued sharing a bed with him I would have divorced him years ago! We’ve been together 16 years.

Mine had separate bedrooms.

Mine were divorced, so no.
Me and DH are in separate rooms due to his ED and snoring. When he wouldn’t do anything about the ED I didn’t see why I should suffer his snoring and thrashing about any more.

Mine slept separately, were married for 58 years.
I sleep separately from dh and always have, wouldn't have it any other way, been married 25 years

Yes, from at least my early teens. They’re still together but have very different sleep needs and habits. Still sleep separately. My husband and I share a bed but we have a spare that either of us use if we feel we’re not going to get to sleep easily or disturb the other. Works pretty well.

Mine slept in the same bed when I lived at home, but don't anymore. They probably moved at around 60? My dad snores and my mum sleeps very lightly. Married nearly 50 years.

Mine slept in the same bed until they divorced when I was 18.

Yes, must be over a decade now.

Not until the last few weeks before dad died. Mum got hit by a car and had to be in a hospital bed downstairs. Dad deteriorated health wise and got taken to hospital where he died. One of mum's biggest sadnesses is that he couldn't die at home in her arms.

My grandparents always slept apart their entire married lives. Grandpa was invited into granny's bed for marital relations and then sent packing back to his single bed in the dressing room!

If you need to sleep separately, that’s absolutely fine and your decision, nothing to do with what the kids might think. Do it if it saves your sanity, poor sleep is linked to so many health issues.

Mine slept separately due to my dad's snoring. They've been happily married for 57 years now.

Parents shared a bed.

husband and I slept apart for many years due to young kids who wouldn’t sleep and ended up co-sleeping, plus shift work.

I realised too late that it damaged our marriage.

Not my parents, but my husband sleeps in the spare room as he has insomnia, a chronic illness and used to snore really badly! I don't think my kids have been damaged.

They shared a bed until I was around 13 ish, separate rooms until I was around 15 then they divorced.

I don't think it's impacted the way I view things, or maybe it has, I dunno. They were just two people who ended up being unhappy with each other,

My parents slept separately from my teens/ their 40s. It did make me think they don't have a relationship just a mutual dependance - they bicker a lot too. But stayed together until he died last year in his 80s. Who knows if they'd have been happier separated. Me, DH and kids live in SE we have no option, no other room or beds so we share. We would anyway I think.

My parents still share a bed after 66 years of marriage. DH's parents had separate rooms due to MIL's health issues. DH and I have our own rooms because he snores, and I think it's saved our marriage.

Mine were as separate as soon as they could. Probably when the kids went off to uni.

Yes until they divorced. However I have conditions that give me a lot of pain in my muscles, tendons and joints so we quite often sleep separately. We love
Each other to
bits and have a full plan for our future as winding down businesses when we’re in our 50’s which we will build up for our kids, but I have to say, the nights we sleep
separately it’s bliss! We both snore and I can’t just stay in a limited area as I need to stretch out

Mine shared a bed until their marriage hit the rocks, then my dad started sleeping in the spare room. It was one of the first signs things were bad (autistic sibling didn’t sleep and my mum did all the night wakings). They eventually divorced.

Mine always have slept in the same bed and still do.

I remember being shocked as a young child when my friend told me her parents were sleeping separately in single beds and I told her that’s wrong (!)… We were kids in the eighties though… Hard to imagine children discussing their parents’ bedroom arrangements now or caring about it.

My in-laws were sleeping separately when I met them in their sixties. Not sure if it’s always been like that and what was the reason. Fil died soon after I met him.

My parents slept in separate beds for as long as I remember. They had a very unafectionate marraige which has affected me.

Mine slept separately. I remember when I was young thinking it wasn't normal. But it really was one small element of a terrible and very unhappy marriage. They hated each other, which I was also aware wasn't normal. They're no longer married.