Did your parents sleep separately?

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Without giving context or a reason why I’m considering this, please can people tell me if your parents slept in separate rooms when you were growing up? What were the reasons why and do you feel that impacted you in any way? Like did it skew your view of relationships or anything like that? Also are your parents still together? TIA

My DM and her husband have slept in separate bedrooms throughout their 30 year marriage. Me and my DH have slept in separate rooms for the last 5 years. Sleep is so important for health. Our marriage including our sex life has never been better.

Yes they did for most of my childhood.

I'm not certain why. My father did work away a lot when I was young, and there were remarks about his snoring when he was home; however, my mother gained a habit of sleeping on the couch whether or not my father was home. She continued to do so even after they were no longer living together, even when she lived alone in a home with multiple bedrooms and beds. She also slept with her purse under her pillow - she openly discussed that. I think her drug use caused some paranoia.

It didn't skew my view of relationships - I was aware from a young age that my parents' relationship was fucked up for many other reasons so I've only ever used them as a model of what not to do (I started reading books on healthy relationships as a pre-teen because I knew I'd have no idea).

My husband and I have been together for over 20 years, and while sleeping in the same room, we have slept separately most of the time for the last 12 or so as he works nights and I work days. It has its pros and cons. I use a full body pillow for additional support to help with joint pain and that's easier to do when alone in bed.

My DPs had twin beds until DF's snoring and DM's insomnia got too much. Then he was banished to the sofa abd then, after a house move, to the box room. When they moved into a sheltered flat, they had to share a,room, but it was twin beds again.

DH and I have always slept together unless one of us is ill or very drunk, but I fear it will not be for much longer as he has incurable cancer and wont be able to get up the stairs for ever.

Same here

If I had a spare room I’d send DH there.

snoring, thrashing about and late night foot dancing. Drives me mad.

Yes, as far back as I can remember and probably further. They separated when I was 5. I think the separate rooms were a symptom rather than a cause, but I do think there’s a correlation.

I’m so very sorry to read of your DH… sending you love and positivity….💕….. I hope you will have a lovely Christmas and New Year together …💝..and enjoy every minute 🤗

Mine do. Occasionally my mother will go into the spare if there is a snoring issue. My grandparents had twin beds and both said they were the key to a happy marriage 🤣

Yes from when I was about 13, because of my Dad’s terrible snoring (it really is bad, wouldn’t be able to sleep next to that either).
They are still happily married in their 70s now.
I wouldn’t say it affected my view of relationships no, DH and I still share a bed but I do view separate bedrooms as something that can be positive in some circumstances.