To have not told my partner

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I recently joined back onto Facebook to use Facebook marketplace. I don't use it for anything else but when I went back on I found I message from my ex from when I was 17 that he sent 6 months ago. The message said he saw me in a dream and so was saying hi... I ignored it and didn't reply..

Just now I left my phone out on the table and my partner saw that someone's story had come up on my notifications ... the picture was of a different guy and my partner questioned me about it.. I explained why I was on facebook but he said he wanted to see my messages.. so I showed him and he saw the message and is now fuming..

He said it's shady that I didn't tell him and it shows the kind of person I am... maybe I should have told him about the message but my partner is quite jealous and I saw no good in it.... he thinks I now might be having some kind of affair ... should I be apologising for not telling him?

Get rid of this nasty arsehole.
How dare he demand to see your private messages. You don’t need an immature, insecure, controlling little creep in your life.

This is very aggressive and controlling behaviour. You are well to be out of it. No way will he get custody.

He doesn’t get to unilaterally pick the nursery. It needs to work for you as well obviously.

God! He sounds like an abusive, controlling arse.
You take control!
Safeguard yourself and your child.
You're nearly there.
Good luck x

When he tells you who he is, believe him!

You have evidence of his nature. This will not get better with the passage of time.

You will become a shadow of yourself if you stay and allow him to belittle you.