What would you make of this msg…

[Nameuser321]

These are not the exact words btw…
this was sent after a night out.

sorry my performance was shit
don’t worry i get anxiety sometimes too

this was between 2 men after a group night out

I’d take it from your updates that he’s had, or tried to, have sex with this man. Sorry OP. Like another poster has asked, can you leave?

Then walk away

pool?

oh sorry just caught up
make your exit

It could have been a woman’s saved used a man’s name.

Either way it seems to be about sex.

Perhaps the push you need to end an abusive relationship.

are the missing words “in bed”
in which case you have need to worry.

on another note nice to see two guys looking out for each other.

As others have said he’s either tried to have sex with another man and was unable to get hard due to anxiety OR he’s tried the same with a woman but saved her number in his phone as a man/mate to avoid you getting suspicious/finding out.

Either way he’s a wanker and disloyal.

You say it’s a shit relationship anyway so you should leave. All the practical and financial aspects do get sorted and you’ll be OK - many, many of us have been here and come through it happier, wiser and 100 times better off in all ways.

Are you sure this conversation was between 2 men on a group night out? Or was the company and the location just something that's been assumed?
This sounds a strange choice of words and the viagra being in the mix makes it seem sex-related.

Thanks all
so non of the words i missed out were crucial not bed or any names or anything
think a bit shit/ crap / bad Or my/ me Ive not changed it too mean anything else or miss anything out

yes there are kids involved its a v lt relationship

another thing is we are booked to go disney at Christmas and the remainder is due to be paid next week

also i have no where to go at the minute

Yes im sure the msg was on the night he went out with a group of men & not assumed

is it definitely his friend he is messaging? Could he have changed the name in his phone? Put the number into your contact list then look at the profile pic on WhatsApp.

I cant get the phone its usually glued to his hand

Have you considered that he may have a woman saved under a mans name?

I still think some context is missing. Did you partner receive or send that message? And was there a message beforehand as that one looks very much like a reply. “Don’t worry I get anxious too”… what is that in response too? It doesn’t sound like an opening message. Did you see this on your partners phone? Is there a reason you’re reading his texts?
Have you ever suspected he may be interested in men? Do you think he could’ve saved a woman’s number under a man’s name to make it look less suspicious?

Your taking one word out of a message and making a big deal of it.

Time share selling or bumming each other.

Im sure it was a guy as it didn’t seem like a woman msging but I could be wrong
@MaplePumpkin the don’t worry part was the other person replying to the first bit i put

Darts or pool at the pub?

Are they work colleagues? Could it be a work related job / project / presentation? Are they family?

@Shoemadlady
no ive said on updates it’s nothing like that theyre not work colleagues, there was nothing like that and not family or in a band or anything

Maybe involved in a threesome? Or more 😅

How do you know he went out with a "group of men"? is that what he said? He could have "susie" marked as "Ben" on his phone contacts on purpose as a disguise. If I were in your shoes I would call "Ben" from anonimous and see who picks up or listen the voice mail (male or female voice?). Your hubbie is definately up to no good. Go to a lawyer to see where you stand (legal and financial) but don't say anything. Ducks in row quietly.

Quite the drip feed.

@Springtimehere maybe
i just don’t have proof

@BauhausOfEliott for a reason
you don’t have to follow

@toiletpaperthief i cant get back on the phone
we are not married so no lawyer ive no leg to stand on in regards to anything unfortunately
but ye the names could have been changed in phone