Is it possible he is tracking my WhatsApp?

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It's possibly (probably?) coincidence, but two or three times in the past couple of years, my husband has said something very specific that I'd said earlier that day on whatsapp. Both times it was in a chat with my sister, I think.

On each occasion it was when I was relating the whatsapp conversation to my husband that he then said something specific that my sister and I had said to each other in that chat.

I've nothing to hide, so I'm not concerned about him finding out something, and if he is tracking me I can't imagine why - our marriage is fine.

My whatsapp account isn't linked to any other devices but mine, but is it possible for him to somehow be monitoring my phone and / or laptop? I couldn't find anything online that would explain it, and there's nothing I can find in my devices (I'm pretty tech-savvy). Is there some kind of malware that can hide that your account is linked?

He doesn't have any kind of contact with my sister, he hasn't even seen her in years as we live abroad and I tend to visit on my own.

It has to be a coincidence doesn't it? The examples were so specific though.

OP said her own laptop is the only connected device. However, might he be mirroring the laptop? Unfamiliar with Apple, but their support website suggests it's possible to share screens if on the same network.
Google: "Share the screen of another Mac – Apple Support (UK)"

OP, there’s quite a few “spying” apps out there including one of the most infamous, MSpy. If you have a Google you’ll see what these apps are capable of and how they are installed. I think MSpy is marketed as a parenting control app but you’ll soon see that there’s a lot more to it.

I hope it’s nothing like this though, because I don’t think you’ll ever be able to trust him again if he’s actually done this (not to mention it being illegal).

Thanks all. I scanned my phone and there's no spyware installed, so that's a relief. It's almost certainly just coincidence, or that he looked at my phone or laptop, though not sure how / when he could have. And even if he had, there's nothing on there to hide, so, whatever.

My ex used to regularly look through my purse, this was years before mobile phones. He also used to try to lurk and eavesdrop whenever I was on the phone. It's about jealousy, possessiveness and control. I knew he had looked through my purse because things were put back slightly differently and I could see him 'hiding' when I was on the phone, in the reflection of the hall mirror. I never let on at the time.

I divorced him for many many reasons, but this was one of them. I still say your DH is spying on you, OP. I mean, come on, how often in the day/month/year do you talk about Byron, wonderful poet though he may be?

Been there darling and trust me, I had such a hard time catching up with my boyfriend's tracking skills. If it were not for a random purchase on my credit card showing up under a very vague name, I would have kept labeling myself paranoid, as he loved to call me everytime I brought something like this up. Upon digging and after numerous attempts, I found this app called Xnspy he had installed on my phone. The worst part? It was literally a child monitoring app. When I reached out to their customer support, thankfully they were cooperative enough to terminate the subscription. So, check your bank account and credit card statement, whatever he is using will ultimately show up as a random, unexplained purchase.

So, check your bank account and credit card statement, whatever he is using will ultimately show up as a random, unexplained purchase.

Unless he's paid for it using his own credit card.

I found this app called Xnspy he had installed on my phone. The worst part? It was literally a child monitoring app.

The "child monitoring" is a fig leaf to sanitise what these apps are really for. Google Family exists for those who need parental controls and child location tracking. If you are tracking and monitoring your own child, you have no reason to deny that to the child. These clandestine apps are stalkerware, intended to be installed without the phone user's knowledge.

Its good in marriages to be open, and be able to be open and honest in everyway. This builds trust and it improves communication.

Clandestinely spying on your spouse is the opposite of "open and honest".